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Look - They've been in a relationship for 18 months.

He probably made the account while he was already in the relationship (Since the craze started pretty recently) meaning he didnt have to change his relationship status in the first place and could have set it as 'In a relationship' while he was filling in his details originally.

thats an assumption

yumyumyum

exactly..

Thank you! :p:

Reply 23

Trigger

yumyumyum

exactly..

well either i have a way too relaxed view on the internet and its evils or your a bunny boiler :rolleyes:

Reply 24

Anonymous #1

Why

Well that depends when the account was made doesnt it and since they've been in a relationship for 18 months it's likely it was made when he was already in the relationship.

Yes; just to clarify, he created the account a month ago so it was created whilst we were together - no question of forgetting to change his status :frown:

Reply 25

Misogynist

Trigger

thats an assumption

A more calculated and well though assumption than yours though. All we can do is assume, I dont know this person or when he created his account and neither do you. Your basis is he simply forgot. My basis is that he probably created his account during those 1 year and 6 months since the whole craze started recently.

Reply 26

Trigger

Anonymous

Yes; just to clarify, he created the account a month ago so it was created whilst we were together - no question of forgetting to change his status :frown:

look if your that worried ask him. i still stand by my point that hes acting out some lewd male fantasy. did u read the comments?

Reply 27

Trigger

Why

your really not that good

Reply 28

IrrelevantQuip

Trigger

im still not getting your point, see all your doinf is ignoring what i say in the vain hope youl sound clever

Trigger, try and stick to the argument, and keep away from stupid sly digs. Good lad.

I think that you are both right.

Let's face it, he shouldn't have his relationship status set to single if he's in a relationship for the last 18 months. Along with adding about 50 porn-starish looking women, it all sounds a bit pathetic on his part. The best thing to do, would be to add him. I don't think confronting him over it would be the greatest idea, as he surely would be embarrassed about it, and when people are embarrassed, they usually put up a front, even if they know they are wrong. He will try and twist it into being your fault.

By adding him, you won't be making a big deal about it, and when he realises that you can see his profile, then he won't be long changing it, or getting rid of his cyber friends. If things don't change, then I'd be slightly worried.
Good luck.

Reply 29

Misogynist

Trigger

your really not that good

And that's why I was right and you were wrong. The account was created a month ago, voiding your statement of 'He forgot!' and proving mine correct.

Reply 30

Trigger

IrrelevantQuip

ok first im a girl and second i was sticking to the argument thankyou :rolleyes:

Reply 31

Trigger

Why

And that's why I was right and you were wrong. The account was created a month ago, voiding your statement of 'He forgot!' and proving mine correct.

so you were right he made the account recently. doesnt mean your right about him not taking the relasionship seriously.

Reply 32

Reue

Relationship status is set to Single as default. He may have just forgot to change it when he first created the account.

To be honest, if your worrying about something as tiny as relationship staus on myspace... it raises questions about just how good your relationship is in the first place!!

Reply 33

Anonymous #1

Trigger

look if your that worried ask him. i still stand by my point that hes acting out some lewd male fantasy. did u read the comments?

Yeah, I've read everyone's comments; thanks to everyone who replied.
I do understand your point of view about it being fantasy but I think it's a bit too far to create a fully accurate profile of yourself (including a photo of him) and say you're single; it's on the Internet for the world to see and it's making me question how far this fantasy extends - is he going out to clubs and telling girls he's single? Is he taking his MySpace friendships any further? etc.
The fact he created it a month ago suggests to me that some part of him isn't fully committed to our relationship at this point in time if he feels the urge to do this now - and that worries me. :frown:

He's constantly emphasising the importance of honesty, fidelity etc. to me and this feels like a huge slap in the face.
Sod it, maybe I'll just text him now and ask him....

Reply 34

Trigger

go on then im really interested as to what will happen

Reply 35

Anonymous #1

Reue

Relationship status is set to Single as default. He may have just forgot to change it when he first created the account.

I'd like to think that, but he's changed every other default and every other option in that section, totally customised his profile etc... looks very very deliberate to me, especially given the calibre of his MySpace friends!!
I know it shouldn't be a big deal, but trust is an important part of a relationship like ours where we're apart a lot, and this doesn't feel right to me.

Reply 36

Misogynist

Anonymous

Yes; just to clarify, he created the account a month ago so it was created whilst we were together - no question of forgetting to change his status :frown:

So he really has no excuse to do that then - Since he originally filled out all his details one month ago and you both were already in the relationship (For one year and 5 months! Which is alot!)

You can take two approaches now one's a bit low key and not direct enough. The other is effective but possibly damaging.

1- Confront him. This will be effective as he's been caught red handed doing it and there's no sly 'adding him' games involved. It's just a plain and simple 'Why did you do it' thing and see whether he has a valid argument to support his case. This can be damaging though as in he might take offense to it or be embarrased and it'll cause him to adopt a sort of 'avoiding' attitude towards you.

2- Add him on Myspace and see if anything changes. Very low key and non-direct. Wont get the point across well and possibly wont clear things up enough for you to be satisfied but you wont run the risk of ruining the relationship.

Reply 37

Trigger

Reue

exactly

Reply 38

IrrelevantQuip

Trigger

ok first im a girl and second i was sticking to the argument thankyou :rolleyes:

Apologies.
By the way, you don't need to roll your eyes at every single comment someone makes. You'll get a headache :smile:

Reply 39

Misogynist

Anonymous

People are trying to make it not appear like a big deal but in actual fact it very much is. It's much much more likely it was deliberate and looking at ways how it could have gone wrong is like looking for a needle in a haystack in this case. It's not trivial at all.

The thing is this is a question of credibility and trust. The very foundations of a healthy relationship and I'm sorry to say that these are very clear indications he's not completely devoted to the relationship at any rate. Unless he has a very good excuse for why he did it I wouldnt let him get off so easy because what he did was just plain and simple wrong.