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You did not fully catch what I said. Wear skimpy clothes and post them all over social media, knowing that it would mainly attract the attention of males, which is where most of their likes and comments would come from.

Not really. I can eat beef and I can eat chicken, but some days I prefer lamb. If I was commited to chicken as my favourite I would not need to try other meat, is that what you are saying?
Original post by Anonymous
You did not fully catch what I said. Wear skimpy clothes and post them all over social media, knowing that it would mainly attract the attention of males, which is where most of their likes and comments would come from.

Not really. I can eat beef and I can eat chicken, but some days I prefer lamb. If I was commited to chicken as my favourite I would not need to try other meat, is that what you are saying?


So YOU're saying that your girlfriend (chicken) is your favourite but you're eating others? Love for her to see this. ANSWER MY QUESTION
You <3
Original post by hannahhaworth
At no point did I mention her preferring them over you. I was saying imagine that she went through her 'wankbank' of your mates with you -how would that make you feel? Something you've avoided answering.


you said "then giving you a list of those she preferred" quite clearly. I dont know how I would feel, but clearly not as butthurt as some of you are on this thread
Original post by Anonymous
you said "then giving you a list of those she preferred" quite clearly. I dont know how I would feel, but clearly not as butthurt as some of you are on this thread


preffered to **** over. obviously. still not answered it, who's butthurt here really?
basically, anon, you know that you're a foul piece of human garbage or you wouldn't have started this thread. so do the decent thing and break up with your gf because she doesn't deserve to be with such a selfish human being as you. How do you think she'd feel seeing this thread? Who do you think she'd agree with?
No I could have used cars or any other example. The thing is none of her friends are involved, and neither she or any of them know. So no one is getting hurt.

If you post an overly revealing pic I would not be surprised if someone has to be honest, but you would not know.
Original post by Anonymous
No I could have used cars or any other example. The thing is none of her friends are involved, and neither she or any of them know. So no one is getting hurt.

If you post an overly revealing pic I would not be surprised if someone has to be honest, but you would not know.


Ah, the classic; 'YOU DRESSED LIKE THAT SO YOU WANTED IT'
Original post by hannahhaworth
basically, anon, you know that you're a foul piece of human garbage or you wouldn't have started this thread. so do the decent thing and break up with your gf because she doesn't deserve to be with such a selfish human being as you. How do you think she'd feel seeing this thread? Who do you think she'd agree with?


I am physically not cheating on her though. How is it selfish? Your man could be (most likely) doing the same thing on you without you knowing. I mean you can not be there every second of the day when he feels like he wants some :rolleyes:
Original post by hannahhaworth
Ah, the classic; 'YOU DRESSED LIKE THAT SO YOU WANTED IT'


No it is different to rape, which I assume is what you are referring to. Rape is going against someones consent. And there is usually emotional (sometimes physical) damage involved. Here no one is getting hurt in any case.
Original post by Anonymous
I am physically not cheating on her though. How is it selfish? Your man could be (most likely) doing the same thing on you without you knowing. I mean you can not be there every second of the day when he feels like he wants some :rolleyes:


Yeah and I know he does because we've talked about it, so the respect is there, and I know he'd never use pics of my friends. Not that it's remotely relevant because I'm not the one posting questions about it.

You, sunshine, are querying it on a public forum and saying fairly rapey things when challenged. You know you're in the wrong and you know if your gf saw this she'd dump you. So either stop airing your icky sticky laundry online or learn how to take criticism.
Original post by Anonymous
No it is different to rape, which I assume is what you are referring to. Rape is going against someones consent. And there is usually emotional (sometimes physical) damage involved. Here no one is getting hurt in any case.


why did you start this thread?
Original post by hannahhaworth
why did you start this thread?


Saw another thread on here about a girl complaining over her boyfriend wanking over someone else, so I wanted to know what the general opinion on this would be since I thought it would be the norm?
Original post by Anonymous
Saw another thread on here about a girl complaining over her boyfriend wanking over someone else, so I wanted to know what the general opinion on this would be since I thought it would be the norm?


bull. you saw how that girl was upset and for a minor moment saw things from your girlfriend's point of view

If not, and if you're still not doing that, I hope she's ****ing your three fittest friends.
Anyways thanks for all your opinions, just wanted a friendly discussion on this topic, did not anticipate it would turn violent and resort to personal attacks...
Original post by hannahhaworth
bull. you saw how that girl was upset and for a minor moment saw things from your girlfriend's point of view

IIf not, and if you're still not doing that, I hope she's ****ing your three fittest friends.


How mature, and you say I am the one who is butthurt :rolleyes:
Original post by Anonymous
How mature, and you say I am the one who is butthurt :rolleyes:


If only in her head :biggrin:!!!
It's only cheating if you're actually interacting with them as part of the sexual act. As it stands you are using them as porn. This is an entirely normal thing to do with women in your social circle, the fact that they're your girlfriend's friends is neither here nor there - in fact it's probably easier if there is that slight distance in it.

However depending on how much it is about your interpersonal attachment to them, it may imply you have to consider whether you might want to be with them.

Still it's not even a bad thing to have an outwardly flirtatious relationship with a friend or even a girlfriend's friend while in a relationship. As long as it remains at a low or playful level and there is an unspoken understanding thst it won't go too far or ratchet up.
Original post by hannahhaworth
Ah, the classic; 'YOU DRESSED LIKE THAT SO YOU WANTED IT'


No, because there is no "it" to argue over. Masturbating over someone is a private matter which, if kept private, harms nobody, unlike sexual assault. Given that there is no harm, it seems you just object to men finding women who are dressed revealingly attractive - not a good look.

Secondly, for him to comment that it has probably happened is not the same thing as condoning it.
I haven't read a lot of this cos it turned into your usual slut-shaming debate

But I don't see this as a problem. Me and my boyfriend are pretty open about sex, we often talk about who we find attractive, I am bi and we have had arguments cos he doesn't think Natalie Portman is hot lol. I have some hot friends, I wouldn't mind if they slipped into his mind, it's his business. He wouldn't go so far as to search out pictures as he never uses Facebook and he is an extremely disciplined and respectful man in some ways. But it wouldn't really bother me. I've looked at hot photos of girls/guys on Facebook before, maybe saved a couple here and there

I know I'm attractive, that my bf is very attracted to me, our sex life is great and i trust him 100%. What he fantasises about is his own business!

I feel like sexual jealousy can weigh down a relationship. We are all sexual it's natural to fantasise. It's our actions towards others that define loyalty. I cheated on my ex and that had nothing to do with what I fantasise about on my own time.

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