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    (Original post by gagaslilmonsteruk)
    People often say stuff like that either because
    a) lack of education
    b) because they have insecurities of their own
    c) both

    I personally think that it's time to make such words and hatred against LGBTs illegal.
    Yeah it should be made illegal as soon as possible.

    Homophobia is too leniently allowed in society, and it needs to stop.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah it should be made illegal as soon as possible.

    Homophobia is too leniently allowed in society, and it needs to stop.
    The thing is though, it's awkward because a vast portion of the world is religious, and many believe that religion tells them homosexuality is wrong. however if you're LGBT and still true to your faith, then you cannot use your religion as a curtain to hide behind to defend your 'right' to be homophobic. The way the American LGBT deal with the WBC is something for a lot of us look up to. There are gay Christians who have proven that the bible is not against homosexuality. What's even more worrying is the situation in the middle east right now, particularly with ISIS (Islamic State of Iraq and Syria - it's the state seeked by the rebels that is constantly being spoken about on the news at the moment) gaining strongholds in Iraq. When the US liberated Iraq in 2003, whilst tolerance was never high, the LGBTs of Iraq had homosexuality decriminalised. I fear for Iraqi LGBTs that it may not be the case for much longer.
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    (Original post by Fleffzilla)
    ... So as before, then. Serious matters in here, absolutely no spamming :p:

    Chat thread's moved to here. I've edited the link in SWuh's quote too though so no real need to worry.
    Questionnaire and picture thread are still the same



    Oooooh, list of honorary members [who support LGBTers], mainly to avoid confusion, also because it's easier than listing everyone [please tell me if I've missed anyone]:

    icantthinkofacoolusername
    fanofkdc [sort of - applied but had too many socs already]

    Please tell me when you apply to join if you're an honorary so I can add you to this list! Cheers
    Oh, so this is a cyberspace equivalent to Peterhouse, Cambridge?
    #16

    I've recently come out to a few really close friends, and they've all had the exact reaction I hoped for - complete indifference. They're there for me of course, and if I want to talk about things they will, but they don't treat me any differently and they didn't make a big deal out of it.

    I sort of knew this is how they would be, because I've known them for so many years, and one of us has been out for a while anyway. So, for me, coming out to them wasn't really a big deal. It was a drunken confession here or there, and I felt completely safe with them. Coming out to myself was a lot harder.

    But, the point of this post is that I'm going to uni in October, and it just feels like such a sucky time to have just begun realising this about myself, and accepting it.

    I'm not sure what to do - on one hand, I feel it would be nice to go and just be openly gay from the start, a fresh beginning if you like. But, on the other hand, I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that. Nobody else knows apart from 6 close friends, I can't even begin to comprehend being OK with telling complete strangers. I don't want it to be something that defines me, ever, which is why I was so comfortable with telling the people I have - because I knew it would never be even in the first 50 adjectives they'd chose to describe me. I can't help but think if I go to uni completely out, it will be among the first things people know about me, and I wish it weren't. But then again, at some point down the line, I don't want to have to do the whole 'coming out' thing as if it were big deal, with these new friends I make.

    Does anybody have any advice? Like, any at all. I'm at a dead end.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've recently come out to a few really close friends, and they've all had the exact reaction I hoped for - complete indifference. They're there for me of course, and if I want to talk about things they will, but they don't treat me any differently and they didn't make a big deal out of it.

    I sort of knew this is how they would be, because I've known them for so many years, and one of us has been out for a while anyway. So, for me, coming out to them wasn't really a big deal. It was a drunken confession here or there, and I felt completely safe with them. Coming out to myself was a lot harder.

    But, the point of this post is that I'm going to uni in October, and it just feels like such a sucky time to have just begun realising this about myself, and accepting it.

    I'm not sure what to do - on one hand, I feel it would be nice to go and just be openly gay from the start, a fresh beginning if you like. But, on the other hand, I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that. Nobody else knows apart from 6 close friends, I can't even begin to comprehend being OK with telling complete strangers. I don't want it to be something that defines me, ever, which is why I was so comfortable with telling the people I have - because I knew it would never be even in the first 50 adjectives they'd chose to describe me. I can't help but think if I go to uni completely out, it will be among the first things people know about me, and I wish it weren't. But then again, at some point down the line, I don't want to have to do the whole 'coming out' thing as if it were big deal, with these new friends I make.

    Does anybody have any advice? Like, any at all. I'm at a dead end.
    awww thats not fair
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    1. Are you male or female? Male
    2. Are you L G B or T? G
    3. How old are you? 17
    4. When did you first realise you were L G B or T? When asked this by a straight person my response is "When did you first realise you were straight?"However, when I joined my prep school, aged 7 and I found out there were categories and wanting to chase the boys when playing kiss-chase meant you had to label yourself a certain way, I suppose then, that is when I realised I was gay.
    5. When did you (or when do you plan to) come out? I came out on my 14th Birthday to my Mum, I got her to tell my Dad, who was away.
    6. If your parents know you're gay how did they react? Mum's reaction "We are gonna have so much fun, c'mon, I got a new pencil skirt upstairs let's go try it on!!!" Which I found amusing. My Dad said "Yep, doesn't change anything, all fine, but uh, no funny business at school..." Which was hilarious!
    7. Are you 'attatched'? if so for how long? For about 4 months on and off...
    8. When was your first sexual experience with the SAME sex...? Aged 7. Boarding school nonsense, you have to have been to boarding school to understand.
    9. ...and what was it? It was touching and a lot of giggling!
    10. Have you ever had a sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex...? Yes
    11. ...and what was it like? I was drunk, it was their hand, it felt the same as a guys hand.
    12. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the SAME sex? Oh yes.
    13. Have you ever had a BAD sexual experience with a member of the OPPOSITE sex? I guess... Being Drunk and all...
    14. In what ways do you support L G B or T stereotypes? I love musicals... and I do it with guys?
    15. Have you ever been troubled by 'phobes and if so how did you deal with it? Junior School, left the school.
    16. What do you look for in a partner? Have to be strong, not fall for the silly games I play. Cultrually enriched, intelligent and well-endowed.
    17. What are your views on the political parties, who do you support and why and do gay rights influence your vote? NOT UKIP, EVER! DISGUSTING!! Not conservatives because they have promised and IN/OUT referendum which is bad. Not Labour because, don't be silly. Maybe Liberal if the better their plan for the deficit. I don't vote for homophobes, or people that are pro-gay to the point where they lose-sight of other important issues.
    18. Have you ever been on/would you ever go on a gay pride march? What was it like/why (not)? I was going to go to Brighton but couldn't get the time off work. I would love to this year.

    And now us being nosey...

    1. Who was your first celeb crush of the same sex? David Tennent or David Boreanaz
    2. How many sex toys do you own and what? One mini-bullet, not for weird pleasure but to avoid pain when encountering the real thing.
    3. How many sexual partners have you had (broken down into both sexes)? Girls: 0 Boys: Fair Share... Lead a bohemian whore lifestyle.
    4. ...and when was the last time you, err, "got some" (broken down into both sexes)? Two nights ago... Male. Female, touching, 4 years ago, first and last.
    5. Can you recommend a good ol' gay night out in your area? Portsmouth, U.K. Hampshire Boulevard? Grindr?? Hahaha
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