How can I make my girlfriend orgasm??

I have no idea if I have ever made her orgasm before, she has never moaned too loudly or been like "**** me this is good" but yeah she groans and says it's good. Just like any girl would for their boyfriend.

When we have sex she usually enjoy it for 5-10 minutes but then wants me to finish so she starts groaning and touching me to speed me up, confusing.

When I go down on her she likes it, but she doesn't let me very often because she doesn't like the thought of it (maybe she's worried she'll smell or taste bad or whatever)

Anyway, if I go down on her, she usually lets me stay down there for about 10 minutes, and then forces me to stop randomly like she doesn't want to orgasm or that something went wrong..., but then she will NEVER have sex with me after I have been down on her, she will just give me a handjob. Super confused. She won't use sex toys so that's out of the question. Any help guys????

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Reply 1

william walker

Have you thought about asking your girlfriend?

Reply 2

lewif002

Original post by william walker

Have you thought about asking your girlfriend?

I have! She's very shy and wouldn't open up about that. She says it's not that important for her in a relationship. But I still wanna be able to give her the feel goods.

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Reply 3

LiquidGold

Tried fingering? I cant orgasm from sex (still enjoy it though), but do from a good ol bit of fingering down there

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Reply 4

william walker

Original post by lewif002

I have! She's very shy and wouldn't open up about that. She says it's not that important for her in a relationship. But I still wanna be able to give her the feel goods.

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So how important is sex to you? If it isn't that important to her has there been any time when you feel she wanted it more or enjoyed it. Also is her seeming not want it to last long giving you less enjoyment. Have you explain to her how you feel about it?

Reply 5

Killerpenguin15

Have you tried turning it on and off again?

Reply 6

william walker

Original post by LiquidGold

Tried fingering? I cant orgasm from sex (still enjoy it though), but do from a good ol bit of fingering down there

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What a prestigious image you have now left in my mind. :colondollar:

Reply 7

betty.is.alive

Original post by lewif002

what you do is, you get your girlfriend and get into the cowboy position. at this point you sacrifice her pets to the gods and smack her on the forehead with a buttplug.
if she moans then there u have it, an orgasm
hope this helps

Reply 8

ArundelRanger

Does she ever masturbate or has she done so in the past? If not, she's going to really struggle to orgasm by either clitoral or vaginal stimulation.

Dragging a session out, using toys and other equipment, having a lot of foreplay, alternating between long and short strokes, changing speed and tempo, changing positions etc. are all good ideas. If she's not receptive to any of that (it sounds like she's not, from what you're saying) then she's not going to have a great sex life.

Reply 9

lewif002

Original post by ArundelRanger

No she's never masturbated (so she tells me) and I do genuinely believe her. She's not at all dirty minded or behaviourally ... Unlike me :tongue:

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Reply 10

ArundelRanger

Original post by lewif002

No she's never masturbated (so she tells me) and I do genuinely believe her. She's not at all dirty minded or behaviourally ... Unlike me :tongue:

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Ah, well it's never too late to start. Broach the matter to her at some point, perhaps right after your next session, and just try gradually coaxing her into it. This is going to sound graphic but whenever she has some alone time, she can try rubbing her clitoris and inserting fingers at the same time, adjusting tempo and so on, to find out what works for her. It may be difficult for her at first to really get into it, especially if she's never done it solo before. But the reward will be worth it.

Unfortunately, due in part to the way sexual activity is approached in our society, what some people don't realise is that it's important to get to know our own bodies very well, before asking somebody else to have a go at doing it. This goes doubly so for women because it's harder to make a woman achieve full sexual climax than it is for a man to do the same, for reasons that should be obvious.

Persevere and you should be able to spread some of that dirty-mindedness to her. :wink:

Reply 11

NutE

Go down on her, then use your fingers in her. Don't just push your fingers in and out, be sure to curl them 'a come hither' motion. You'll see her body and face react, she'll probably push away slightly but that means it's working and you're close to getting her to orgasm. Then when she screams rub her clit really quick :smile: