Am I being Irrational or am I in the wrong?

You cant tell your girlfriend what she can and cannot do but in this case i dont see a problem with you nicely advising her that these people arent particularly good friends with their behaviour. It is normal to worry about safety at night but you risk upsetting her if you do more than say you re unhappy i.e say i dont want you doing x with y.

I don't think it's fair to call it completely irrational when it's a natural innate part of the human mind to get concerned about this, just because what she's doing is socially the norm now.

That being said, if you knew she liked to go out drinking with friends before you got into a relationship, then it could be said it was implicit that you were accepting that side of her. However, I know girls who still went out with friends when they were in relationships, but would drink far less than when they were single, so that's an option.

I doubt though that her friends would actively encourage her to do anything with other guys, more often it's the other way round where they'd make sure she didn't do anything; but you know them better than I do.

And as for being controlling, I'm sure a girl would feel the same concern if the situation were reversed.


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I understand that it may sound controlling but, she says she only goes out because she fears if she doesn't they will unfriend her - now because of all the horrible positions she's been in because of them I feel like my worries are warranted?