Why do guys always bring up my race?

This is mainly white/Asian guys.

Anytime I talk to one they mention my 'ebony' skin, 'big lips', 'dark skin', how I'm a 'black goddess'... and some other stuff. They always bring up my race and how I'm a black girl blah blah blah. Its like they have a fetish.

Its so annoying? Why do some people feel the need to do this.

This is mainly white/Asian guys.

Anytime I talk to one they mention my 'ebony' skin, 'big lips', 'dark skin', how I'm a 'black goddess'... and some other stuff. They always bring up my race and how I'm a black girl blah blah blah. Its like they have a fetish.

Its so annoying? Why do some people feel the need to do this.

Because it's the most identifiable thing about you and defines your appearance, culture and possibly your upbringing too. But personally I always find that black people can't stop harping on about their race.

and what... black guys don't bring up your race?

your black. people are gonna talk about that.

non black people are going to see you as an exotic sexual fetish.

they will want to "try a black girl"

ebony? ok mr pornhub
black goddess? are you trying to sound like an india arie song?
big lips? thats offensive. you could atleast say full lips.
dark skin? well duh it goes with being black.

the moral of the story is. only date black men.

you might wanna get over this soon cuz its gonna keep happening throughout your life.

peoples race is brought up all the time.
even white people.
i mean the uk's 87% white and i can't stop hearing about white privilege, striaght white men, white sis males.

for most of my childhood i've been the only white guy in a circle of black peers.

race was brought up a lot. tbh though. when i saw white people and black people mixing. i saw race mentioned less by the white people. even when i was the only white guy there race was brought up alot towards other black people my mates calling eachother blick as an insult.

i wonder what wooly background your from to get bothered by this.

the moral of the story is. only date black men.


for most of my childhood i've been the only white guy in a circle of black peers.

race was brought up a lot. tbh though. when i saw white people and black people mixing. i saw race mentioned less by the white people. even when i was the only white guy there race was brought up alot towards other black people my mates calling eachother blick as an insult.

i wonder what wooly background your from to get bothered by this.

I just don't see why they bring it up when I don't mention their whiteness. I just find it odd since white people always say they don't see race and race is not important.

I just don't see why they bring it up when I don't mention their whiteness. I just find it odd since white people always say they don't see race and race is not important.

It's what is known as a microaggression, those small everyday acts and subtle indignities through which the privileged, often without knowing it, make the marginalized feel, well, marginalized.


The trouble is not that blacks see racism in everything but that most whites see racism in nothing


When they are in the company of other whites, they relax, smile and act normal.When a black person enters, the mood changes, however slight but it does change.

I am slightly bothered as I don't get why they bring up my skin colour when white people always say they don't notice race and race is not important. Its funny and hypocrital.

Yeah I agree it is a fetish.

White peoples race is brought up differently to blacks tbh. I don't like being sexualised. These guys have an idea of what a black girl is like and its wrong.

None of my white girl friends get called 'white goddess' or stuff like that... so yeah, I'm just curious why this happens to me.