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Why do girls do this?

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Original post by DanielleT192
Exactly :smile: you sound like an unbiased decent person! Everyone should be like this :tongue:


Aw why thank you! The same goes to you too! :smile: It's the same with any kind of prejudice. I would never label myself as a feminist because I don't agree with all of their actions as a general movement. Instead, I'd label myself as a humanist. Someone who believes that all groups (whether it be race, gender, religion or age etc) should be treated equally. We call come from a common ancestor for crying out loud! :wink: I find over emotional generalisations petty and trivial. It's not like any form of happiness will be brought to either parties either.
Original post by Anonymous
*Girls (plural). Fifteen and counting.

That's exactly what I'm doing right now. I'm off out to pay a girl for sex, cos that's what I've been driven to. Desperate times, desperate measures.



Do you seriously think I'm trying to say that all guys are perfect? We're not. But we put up with a lot more **** from girls than they do from us.



Such a blatant troll. You've given yourself away now!
Original post by Anonymous
Well the majority of girls are like this, literally like 75%


That, I can accept! It's unfortunate, but there are a lot of people who behave intolerably.
Original post by wwwander
That, I can accept! It's unfortunate, but there are a lot of people who behave intolerably.


75% of humanity are bloody horrible. Plus, everyone has niche expectations and so the majority is unlikely to satiate someone's desires.
Original post by georgie_axolotls
Aw why thank you! The same goes to you too! :smile: It's the same with any kind of prejudice. I would never label myself as a feminist because I don't agree with all of their actions as a general movement. Instead, I'd label myself as a humanist. Someone who believes that all groups (whether it be race, gender, religion or age etc) should be treated equally. We call come from a common ancestor for crying out loud! :wink: I find over emotional generalisations petty and trivial. It's not like any form of happiness will be brought to either parties either.


Exactly, it's all basically empowerment on the opposite sex to make them seem more powerful, favoured or shed them in a better light, when in reality these topics should be based on trying to fix the situation and not a whole gender.

Go you! :biggrin: I'm the same with religion too. I don't really favour any type of religion but I wouldn't condone someone's beliefs either.
Original post by Anonymous
That's because all girls ARE rude and inconsiderate. On the surface, there may be some who have the decency to treat others with some courtesy, especially with something as simple as replying to a message. But peel back all the layers and girls are all the same - manipulative, scheming and self-centred. In my experience, girls like to lure men into relationships and give them a false sense of security before they show their true colours. Typical story: guy is attracted to girl because she's sweet, caring, funny, attractive and all that BS. Guy starts a relationship with girl. Girl takes that as an opportunity to lash out at guy, humiliate him in front of his friends, sleep with other guys and generally not give a **** about how he feels. Obviously every girl will do each of these things to varying degrees, but you are extremely naive if you believe not all girls enjoy doing this.

Every girl likes to use emotional abuse, attention-seeking tactics and making a huge drama out of trivial things because they enjoy the excitement. Girls enjoy the thrill of twisting guys around their fingers with stupid mind-games and temper tantrums. That's why it doesn't surprise me at all when OP says girls don't reply to him. That's a perfect example of self-centred, arrogant and extremely rude behaviour.

The bitterness is strong in this one.
Original post by DanielleT192
Exactly, it's all basically empowerment on the opposite sex to make them seem more powerful, favoured or shed them in a better light, when in reality these topics should be based on trying to fix the situation and not a whole gender.

Go you! :biggrin: I'm the same with religion too. I don't really favour any type of religion but I wouldn't condone someone's beliefs either.


Exactly! Haha yes! You're great :smile:! I am an atheist but I let people get on with what they want to believe in! As long as they're not using it to hurt someone I think it's good that people can develop ways to make them cope better and live happily! I totally agree! There is inequality for both genders in specific situations and every social expectation has exceptions which makes the whole idea flawed!
Original post by georgie_axolotls
Exactly! Haha yes! You're great :smile:! I am an atheist but I let people get on with what they want to believe in! As long as they're not using it to hurt someone I think it's good that people can develop ways to make them cope better and live happily! I totally agree! There is inequality for both genders in specific situations and every social expectation has exceptions which makes the whole idea flawed!


Better being open IMO :smile: atheism...is there any beliefs linked to that??

Also I think people throw the 'it's a boy/girl thing' if they're bitter about a situation or if they can't come up with a solution. I have done it before myself haha but it's not accurate.
Original post by DanielleT192
Better being open IMO :smile: atheism...is there any beliefs linked to that??

Also I think people throw the 'it's a boy/girl thing' if they're bitter about a situation or if they can't come up with a solution. I have done it before myself haha but it's not accurate.


We've all done it ! No one is perfect!
Atheism is literally just not believing in God. It's weird because you can still get people who are pro-life or anti-gay and atheist. But also get people who are pro-choice and activist for gay rights. There is no belief linked to atheism except lack of belief :smile: Of course there are individuals who go all evangelical about atheism, which is always amusing!
Original post by georgie_axolotls
Such a blatant troll. You've given yourself away now!


WTF is wrong with you? Just cos you haven't experienced what I have, and you can't conceive of a world where someone has suffered as much abuse from girls as I have - that does NOT make me a troll. Everything I've said here is true, based on my own experiences. You don't like my opinions, give me some constructive criticism - but don't you dare call me a troll. :mad:

Original post by CandyKoRn
The bitterness is strong in this one.


Bitterness is a kind way to put it. I think infuriated is a better word.
Original post by Anonymous
WTF is wrong with you? Just cos you haven't experienced what I have, and you can't conceive of a world where someone has suffered as much abuse from girls as I have - that does NOT make me a troll. Everything I've said here is true, based on my own experiences. You don't like my opinions, give me some constructive criticism - but don't you dare call me a troll. :mad:



Bitterness is a kind way to put it. I think infuriated is a better word.


It's not your experiences that I disbelieve! It's perfectly plausible. It's your eccentric generalisations you reach because of them that I can't tell if you're actually sincere about. They're either sincere and based on anecdotal evidence (forgetting all the decent females who exist who you haven't encountered) or you're just saying it to get a reaction and it's always difficult to tell online.
Original post by Anonymous
*Girls (plural). Fifteen and counting.

That's exactly what I'm doing right now. I'm off out to pay a girl for sex, cos that's what I've been driven to. Desperate times, desperate measures.



Do you seriously think I'm trying to say that all guys are perfect? We're not. But we put up with a lot more **** from girls than they do from us.



Girls like to play games and waste a man's time. Men don't do this on a scale anywhere near what girls do. With men yes usually means yes, no - no. Decisions and actions are straightforward with men. Because men are the ones who have to put themselves out there, initiate and let his ego become tarnished from rejection so he is a hardened individual over time. Femnazis try to separate this fact from the work place but it is quite obvious why men dominate the top positions.
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It's not about being rude - a lot of the time it's not wanting to hurt the person's feelings and not knowing how to phrase a rejection in a nice way. You can feel it'll make the situation more awkward.
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Generally speaking, I think women tend to avoid direct conflict or confrontations, so I think they're more likely to shy away from saying their true feelings upfront, and more likely to just say nothing.

Of course, this is often worse in the end, because the guy doesn't always know where he stands, so might not take the hint.
Instead of randomly asking them you should probably try when you are in the middle speaking and there is a gap or something, then you know they are there and they have to reply because they were just speaking.
I think some girls do this as they don't have the guys to say outright & hurt the guys feelings/worried it turns out really awkward, however I feel it's actually worse overall if they ignore completely as the guy then might not be sure he stands.
Hmm...well there's a couple of reasons why this sort of thing happens. They're either kind of shy about it and don't want to let you down, so they just hope you get the message by not replying to you. Admittedly it's not a good way to treat people but some girls are just a bit like that. Another reason is they're just being rude and they don't want to reply to you. Or, they might think messaging you would be giving you the idea that they're interested when they might not be, so they don't say anything at all. I can see why a direct answer would be much better for you so you know explicitly whether you've got a chance with someone or not, but what can you say when you don't want to go out for a drink with someone without making them feel bad about themselves or awkward for asking? You can't just say 'no,' most people will want an explanation for an answer like that. I think most girls just do it because they either don't know how to let you down gently or don't want there to be awkwardness.
Original post by Anonymous
*Girls (plural). Fifteen and counting.

That's exactly what I'm doing right now. I'm off out to pay a girl for sex, cos that's what I've been driven to. Desperate times, desperate measures.



Do you seriously think I'm trying to say that all guys are perfect? We're not. But we put up with a lot more **** from girls than they do from us.


Woah, ok Elliot Rodger!

If you think you're entitled to f**k any girl you're nice to, you're a misogynist my friend. Women aren't there to drop onto their knees for you just because you've been a basic decent human being. THAT'S WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE, to everyone, regardless of gender, and without expecting sex. Maybe stop seeing and treating women as potential f**ks and actually treat them as equal, valid human beings? Get a grip.
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Original post by Bananas01
So I've asked a few girls(over a long period of time, not all at once :tongue: ) if they want to go for a drink, and they just haven't replied. Of course I take this as a no, and I'm fine with it and don't push it any further, but it would just be much, much better if they just said no. I can appreciate it might be a bit awkward, but just not replying I don't think is really on to be honest. It's pretty rude, and doesn't exactly make you feel great, whereas at least if they say no you've been told and can respect their decision more. It's just not a great way to treat people, really.

So does anyone have any idea why girls do this, and if you've done this, why did you do it and not just say no? Genuinely interested.

Edit: to be clear, I'm asking over messenger, where I have already spoken to them and at least know them a bit.


Hey, sorry to hear about your experiences, it doesn't sound very nice.

I don't know the girls you've been messaging but I would say age can play a factor in how a girl responds to a guy (and vice versa). I also don't know what the conversation between you and the girl(s) consist of, which again could factor. What you need to bear in mind is that girls are socialised to please. A lot of girls and women may feel intimidated by saying outright no, in case they have to justify themselves, or the guy turns on them (you just have to go online and read tinder screenshots etc to see how *some* men respond when being rejected :frown: ).

You sound like a stand up guy, and I appreciate it isn't nice to be left hanging. I would feel crappy too. Are you sure you're not asking to go out with them too soon? Again, I think it can depend on age and just what the girls are like as people.
I've never left a guy hanging. If I've been asked out and I don't want to go I'll let the dude know. It can be awkward but if the tables were turned I wouldn't like it to happen to me.

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