Lonely

Hi

I'm going to make this short and sweet!

I'm an 18-year-old male, average looking, whose finished his A2 exams. I've pretty much devoted the last 4 years of my life to studying and excluding friends.

Don't get me wrong, I do have friends, but I class them as "friends" for certain reasons. In terms of "real" friends, I only have internet friends, who I can never meet because they all live tremendously far. And now that summer has come, most of them are busy with boyfriends and girlfriends and all sorts!

This loneliness feeling comes and goes every year, but it was understandable before since I still had another academic year ahead of me. But this time, I'll be off to uni. Sometimes I actually feel like crying when I hear people going out and having fun etc. (I don't actually cry lol :tongue:

)

So I have the entire summer ahead of me, and I've been sitting at home for the past 7 days doing absolutely nothing apart from social media. I'm getting extremely lonely and want to make some real friends who'd love to go out and have fun. I know most of yous would recommend joining clubs etc, but it's just not y thing. I'd rather meet people online, become close, and meet up - I just feel more comfortable like that.

Is anyone else feeling the same? I mean, I don't mind making new internet friends. I'd love to talk to people who are in the same position!

Thanks :smile:

PS: I live in London!

Reply 1

paigebarker97

I'm the same, I don't have any real friends only people I spoke to in college from my courses. I don't speak to anyone who like near me and I haven't been out other than going shopping, I understand the loneliness your feeling and it can also be really boring just sitting in your room all day. I don't know anyway to meet people my age or to socialise!

I wish I could help you but I live in St Helens!

Reply 2

Cats&Roses

5

If you feel really alone, you could do some things that would help keep you busy. Maybe try apply for a job or volunteer.. there you could also meet some new people :grin:

Reply 3

ALevelBro

2

Original post by amerais18

I'd rather meet people online, become close, and meet up - I just feel more comfortable like that.

You know you could use Tinder or one of those dating sites like OkCupid or whatever? You live in London mate, the chance of getting laid in a big city like that is over 9000!!!

Reply 4

MagicJigsaw

14

Same, I live in London too and I don't really have any proper friends and it gets really lonely. Especially being 18, when this summer everyone's going to festivals and on girls/lads holidays and everything. All I've done since finishing my exams is sit indoors and watch Game of Thrones.

I'm trying to get a job, so you can have something to do and make money. :biggrin:

Reply 5

AyCaramba

8

Ah I'm exactly the same as you guys but live in Manchester. Got 2 or 3 things planned this summer, no holidays or festivals even though I'd love to go to one but everyone is either going with their boyfriends or doesn't want to go at all. Bored as hell, looking for work and can't stand facebook and instagram anymore from all the pictures of people having a great summer haha

Reply 6

bookster

13

Original post by amerais18

Hi

I'm going to make this short and sweet!

I'm an 18-year-old male, average looking, whose finished his A2 exams. I've pretty much devoted the last 4 years of my life to studying and excluding friends.

Don't get me wrong, I do have friends, but I class them as "friends" for certain reasons. In terms of "real" friends, I only have internet friends, who I can never meet because they all live tremendously far. And now that summer has come, most of them are busy with boyfriends and girlfriends and all sorts!

This loneliness feeling comes and goes every year, but it was understandable before since I still had another academic year ahead of me. But this time, I'll be off to uni. Sometimes I actually feel like crying when I hear people going out and having fun etc. (I don't actually cry lol :tongue:

)

So I have the entire summer ahead of me, and I've been sitting at home for the past 7 days doing absolutely nothing apart from social media. I'm getting extremely lonely and want to make some real friends who'd love to go out and have fun. I know most of yous would recommend joining clubs etc, but it's just not y thing. I'd rather meet people online, become close, and meet up - I just feel more comfortable like that.

Is anyone else feeling the same? I mean, I don't mind making new internet friends. I'd love to talk to people who are in the same position!

Thanks :smile:

PS: I live in London!

Dw you're not the only one! Why don't you just go on a walk, you never know whom you might meet?

Reply 7

amerais18

OP

Original post by AyCaramba

Ah I'm exactly the same as you guys but live in Manchester. Got 2 or 3 things planned this summer, no holidays or festivals even though I'd love to go to one but everyone is either going with their boyfriends or doesn't want to go at all. Bored as hell, looking for work and can't stand facebook and instagram anymore from all the pictures of people having a great summer haha

Exactly! What have you got planned?

Reply 8

TheonlyMrsHolmes

19

Original post by amerais18

Hi

I'm going to make this short and sweet!

I'm an 18-year-old male, average looking, whose finished his A2 exams. I've pretty much devoted the last 4 years of my life to studying and excluding friends.

Don't get me wrong, I do have friends, but I class them as "friends" for certain reasons. In terms of "real" friends, I only have internet friends, who I can never meet because they all live tremendously far. And now that summer has come, most of them are busy with boyfriends and girlfriends and all sorts!

This loneliness feeling comes and goes every year, but it was understandable before since I still had another academic year ahead of me. But this time, I'll be off to uni. Sometimes I actually feel like crying when I hear people going out and having fun etc. (I don't actually cry lol :tongue:

)

So I have the entire summer ahead of me, and I've been sitting at home for the past 7 days doing absolutely nothing apart from social media. I'm getting extremely lonely and want to make some real friends who'd love to go out and have fun. I know most of yous would recommend joining clubs etc, but it's just not y thing. I'd rather meet people online, become close, and meet up - I just feel more comfortable like that.

Is anyone else feeling the same? I mean, I don't mind making new internet friends. I'd love to talk to people who are in the same position!

Thanks :smile:

PS: I live in London!

Don't worry your not alone in feeling like this, I have been sitting at home for the last couple of days and switching between Netflix, TSR and cleaning lol but the whole internet friend thing totally happens, I met a friend online and we're meeting up next week :biggrin:

it's a totally nice way to meet people.For the mean time definitely try and get out of your house, maybe just go for walks and things. I think one of the best things to do is to learn to love your own company :colondollar:

Reply 9

schmuur

12

similar situation, minus the internet friend thing. I mean, I have lovely friends that I can have a good time with, but I have no one that I can have a good heart to heart with. I think its because I have travelled so much. I am no longer as close to my England friends as I was, since I don't get to see them much any more, and now soon after I make a good friend I have to leave the country. I'm normally fine with that, but every now and then, especially recently, I get sad or stressed and have no emotional support to help me through.

Reply 10

TorpidPhil

19

Can totally emphasise. It's really bad.

Same

This is entirely my situation! Was meant to go travelling this summer but couldn't, hence now I am jobless and have no plans for this summer. I have friends but none that want to go on holiday/festivals etc and because I spent a large proportion of this year abroad (gap year) many of the friends I made live on the other side of the Atlantic lol. Don't know what to do, feel so lonely! Would love some internet friends haha!

Reply 13

username568974

15

Original post by amerais18

Hi

I'm going to make this short and sweet!

I'm an 18-year-old male, average looking, whose finished his A2 exams. I've pretty much devoted the last 4 years of my life to studying and excluding friends.

Don't get me wrong, I do have friends, but I class them as "friends" for certain reasons. In terms of "real" friends, I only have internet friends, who I can never meet because they all live tremendously far. And now that summer has come, most of them are busy with boyfriends and girlfriends and all sorts!

This loneliness feeling comes and goes every year, but it was understandable before since I still had another academic year ahead of me. But this time, I'll be off to uni. Sometimes I actually feel like crying when I hear people going out and having fun etc. (I don't actually cry lol :tongue:

)

So I have the entire summer ahead of me, and I've been sitting at home for the past 7 days doing absolutely nothing apart from social media. I'm getting extremely lonely and want to make some real friends who'd love to go out and have fun. I know most of yous would recommend joining clubs etc, but it's just not y thing. I'd rather meet people online, become close, and meet up - I just feel more comfortable like that.

Is anyone else feeling the same? I mean, I don't mind making new internet friends. I'd love to talk to people who are in the same position!

Thanks :smile:

PS: I live in London!

if u start uni, u will make friends there..join clubs of ur age...job? it doesn't mean its end of ur life...once u start uni u will meet new people...others will also be in the same position as u wanting to make new friends

Reply 14

AyCaramba

8

Original post by amerais18

Exactly! What have you got planned?

Got my 18th coming up so there's one night out. I'm being more self-reliant now tbh,I'm seeing gigs at the end of the year on my own and am excited, buying freshers tickets, i'm making plans with people instead of waiting for them to make plans with me because i'm not letting that hold me back from enjoying my summer y'know :smile:

Reply 15

amerais18

OP

Original post by AyCaramba

Got my 18th coming up so there's one night out. I'm being more self-reliant now tbh,I'm seeing gigs at the end of the year on my own and am excited, buying freshers tickets, i'm making plans with people instead of waiting for them to make plans with me because i'm not letting that hold me back from enjoying my summer y'know :smile:

Ah, that's great! What gigs are you going to?