When I was in primary school I didn't have that many friends (It was my fault to be fair... my social skills weren't the best) but the 3 friends I did have and I were really close. We spent all our break and lunchtimes together, and made up little plays and games that only we knew. Then in year 6 one of the friends just stopped speaking to me for, as far as I knew, no reason. I would try to speak to her and would get blanked. Not only this but she stopped my best friend from talking and spending time in school with me. - She thought that my best friend was her best friend, but this girl (the best friend) had told us both that she considered me the best friend: we had known each other for longer, had more interests in common and got on better. It was like a Midsummer's Night Dream love triangle but of friendship (the other friend thought that the girl who blanked me was her best friend). - I didn't understand it. We were going to be going to the same school the next year and I had hoped we would still be friends there (the other 2 were going elsewhere - I am still in contact with them without the use of social media). For the rest of the school year the girl never spoke to, or acknowledged, me.
Now, just over 6 years later, we barely talk. I still don't know what I did wrong. But I have learnt I am lucky I am no longer her friend: she has one of those toxic personalities to be friends with (always puts you down, bigs herself up, can never be at fault for ANYTHING). But we are still at the same school and are in quite a close year group as everyone knows, is friends with or at least gets on with everyone. We talk if necessary but avoid each other and if someone even begins to bitch about her people know I won't hesitate to join in (although if it is regarding some things like her intelligence I won't because I know she is smart and tries very hard). Often I am asked why I don't like her and I will say that we used to be friends but she cut me off and I don't know why. People who were there say she was jealous but others are surprised we aren't still friends: we have a lot and nothing in common. She is very good at the Arts (Music and Drama) and is slightly above average at sports I am the same in reverse. We both get very good grades consistently and are considering applying to Oxbridge if our AS results are as expected. A few months ago, one of our mutual friends asked me the why I don't get along with her question and I gave her my usual response (the non-critical one of I don't know) so she asked the other girl. The response she was given was "We have nothing in common". I was extremely annoyed. She had cut me off without even telling me why for such a petty reason. In primary school we both did almost the same extracurricular activities to a similar standard yet we had nothing in common. How can one person decide to end a friendship without telling the other for this reason? It wasn't like we had grown apart. And I have almost nothing in common with any of my school friends: we go to the same school and might do a maximum of two of the same subjects but we definitely do not do the same things out of school. In fact my friends don't even understand the sports I play and I don't understand the video games they play. But we are still friends. Having things in common can make a friendship boring and offers very little escape. It is good to have things in common but not everything. Friendships aren't about what you have in common but who you are friends with and how you get along. Having things in common is not a reason to end a friendship you had had for 5 or so years especially in primary school when you fall in and out of favour with people at a drop of a hat.