We had been going out for 10 months, I loved her more than anything else in the world, we had a lot of arguments but we both loved each other. Most of the arguments revolved around commitment issues. Within the first three months of getting together she was talking about getting engaged, having kids, moving in a flat together and planning the wedding.
I took the view this was completely crazy but she didn't understand so many arguments ensued every time she brought any topic relating to these issues up which was quite a lot over the course of the 10 months we were together. Despite this, I loved her more than anything in the world, my first love, I wanted her to be my last.
She was very much like me too, so it's hard letting to go of someone that is very much like me and it's honestly hard to think how I could possibly meet someone again who will accept me for who I am. We met over Facebook, she was coming to university that following year and we met on the freshers page and got talking, she didn't have a place to stay despite the start of university coming up in a few weeks time.
By some divine miracle as if we were meant to be one of my flatmates had moved out a few days prior to live somewhere else and had been posting on the freshers page for someone to take her contract off her hands. I told her about this situation and she floated the idea of possibly taking her place. So it happened. The first day we were able to move into our flat was the same day we met face to face for the first time, we knew we would get together when we met face to face as we talked about it beforehand and we had been talking for a few months before moving in.
The first 3 and a half months we lived in the same bedroom together, my room effectively became a spare room. Then after Christmas we started to live in our rooms separately for some space and because it eventually got annoying having to move all my stuff back everytime her parents came to visit because we didn't want them to see we were sharing a room.
Having our own bed became a good feeling so we kept it like that. We saw each other every single day for over 9 months because of us living under the same roof. Her contract ended before mine so she left back home which isn't far away, probably an hour or so both train and walking to get there.
The reason she broke up with me was because she said she wanted to focus on herself, her studies and to generally get her life together. She was having trouble in first year with assignments. I tried my best to persuade her on numerous occasions that I would not get in the way of what she wanted to achieve and become in life, but she felt having a relationship while at university was too much of a distraction for her so she ended it.
She was adamant in telling me that she was done with relationships for the time being until she left university and got her career sorted out and everything. I'm in my last year of university whereas she still has another 3 years at university to go so there was quite some distance between us academically also.
I feel completely heartbroken, I can't sleep at night anymore and all night and day my heart feels like it's about to collapse from the amount of emotional pain I'm feeling right now. I haven't eaten all day and I constantly feel sick to my stomach because I know I have lost her and there is no changing her mind, I have tried, to her annoyance.
I'm 20 years old, I have absolutely no friends whatsoever and that is by no means an exaggeration, she was my first ever girlfriend I met over Facebook which sounds ridiculous, I feel like I'm never going to meet anybody ever again.. especially since I've never asked any girl out in person before in my life,
I have no friends to make connections with as a fast track to meeting other girls and I'm in my last year of university so I feel like this is my last chance to meet people and change something in my life or assign my life to a nothingness, as i'll be forced to return back to my hometown which I absolutely hate and never want to go back to at all, the population there is miniscule, there is nothing there and no jobs to boot.
I would do anything not to return there..as such the only thing I did agree with her was that we should move in together, we were planning on moving in our flat together in November but now that she is gone it won't happen.
I really need some encouraging advice right now..I'm completely miserable..I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman..and now it's gone. She loved me too, despite her saying I hurt her sometimes but she knew I loved her and she loved me back..but the fact of the matter was she wanted to concentrate on herself without distractions. It feels wrong to have ended it, but she is adamant it's the right thing to do. I have lost her..