Which part is she lying about?

Hmmmm... what some girls do, sometimes, not suggesting that this has happened here, is that if they get an inkling that somebody likes them they thrive on the attention & like to lead them on so that they get more of it. This might be why this has happened but at the same time it seems like she's a bit confused as to what she wants, she could be still a bit upset from the end of her last relationship and not want to get into anything so soon afterwards?

Hi, I'm a woman and can see exactly what her behaviour means.

You were brave enough to tell her how you feel and she told you how she felt. She said she was not interested, who knows why? Maybe your just not her type!

The behaviour that you are interpretting as flirtatious probably is but this does not mean that she likes you. It probably means she wants to make sure you still feel sexually attracted to her. Why? Well, simply as an ego boost to herself. When I was younger I used to behave in the way that you are describing and a lot of my friends/older women still behave in that way.

If she suddenly began to like you for real you would be getting definite signs and she would kissing just you when not drunk and not random other guys.

Best advice go find another girl who does like you. There are plenty of pretty girls around mate.

Well she has told you how she feels now which is what matters - forget her weird behaviour - reading some of the posts on here its patently obvious the country is full of fudged up teens...

You may have evil friends who are playing a mean trick on you?

just a thought (and I am WAY not good at giving advice, so take this with a pinch of salt): if you took her aside and admitted your feelings and everything and she felt 'put on the spot' and like she had to decide RIGHT NOW whether or not she wanted to date you, saying 'I've never thought of you that way' might be a good, noncommital answer so she had time to think. It gets her out of that conversation without agreeing to date you, but it doesn't have to mean she never will. Saying something about how she likes you too could have commited her to something when she wasn't ready to.

Give her some time. She knows how you feel now, she might choose to act on it. If not, I don't see why you couldn't just plainly ask her out, but in a while so you don't seem too obsessive

erm , latot seems your disagreeing with all the advice your given. If your so sure, by the sounds of it, ask her out again. I'm a dead cert she'd feed you some more bs. I'm not being mean just from what you've posted initially it doesn't sound like she's into you. Find another bird!!!

Ok soz ,apologies if you feel I'm being patronising and negative. I'm known for being a bit harsh by my mates.

Thanks Jenny.. that really helped elaborate the matter for me and puts me much more at ease.

The only problem though, is finding it out from her - I really don't wanna seem obssessive (I know I am being - but don't want her to know that lol). As I said, we always go out in groups, nothing is ever done individually.. especially not between a guy and a girl - no matter who it is (in our group anyway). So if I do ask her to do something with just the 2 of us it will be pretty obvious what my intentions are. And I'm quite a shy-ish guy.. so I can't pull off some fantastical way to get her on her own without it being suspicious.

Thanks for the advice though.. It really put my mind at ease

...melissa made a point about her knowing you like her and wanting to make sure your still attracted to her etc etc but then you said that didnt explain why she said that to your closest friends, which is exactly the point, would she not have known that since they're your closest friends that they would tell you what she said..

that would mean she has you believing she likes you to make sure your still interested in her..

Suspicious is a funny choice of word... I think you need to get over your paranoia a little. Surely if you already told her how you feel, she must know you like her? You have nothing to lose by asking her to hang out with you by yourselves. If you really think it will be obvious what your intentions are then maybe say something jokey like "I won't try and pounce on you, I just want to hang out and chat". And if you think about it, if you're so sure that by asking her to hang out with you on your own, it will be glaringly obvious what you're trying to do, then you can be pretty well assured that if she says yes to hanging out with you, she likes you too? If she says no to hanging out individually then you have your answer to whether or not she likes you enough to go out with you, and you can cover it up by suggesting quickly that you all go out as a group instead.

PS: Sorry for the extremely long post, but I thought it would help anyone who can help clarfiy if i provided a clear picture of the back-story and the situation. thanks in advance.