Post masturbation guilt

It's a rather unsavoury topic which gets mentioned quite a bit here but I need some advice on it.

I don't masturbate too often, usually once every two weeks or so but when I do I'm immediately left with a strange sense of guilt for a day or so. This is likely explained by my christian upbringing, though i'm in no way Christian and left the church at 11.

I feel like my confidence is lowest the days after I masturbate, I can't look people in the eyes properly and I'm not as vocal or social - this might just be my anxiety talking though. I've read various things on the internet (not the most trustworthy of sources, I know )and apparently your testosterone is highest when you don't masturbate.

So I usually avoid masturbating if I can, but being a fully functioning 19 year old i'm constantly plagued by sexual thoughts, so it's a hard task.

I'm just wondering if anyone else experiences similar ?

Reply 1

wearebelievers

I think a lot of people go through a period in which they feel guilt over masturbation, whether it be due to religion or social stigma. You just need to realize it is completely natural and you have no reason to feel guilty over it. Majority of the population do it, including those who damn it. I didn't come from a particularly religious backgroud, but I can imagine it must be extremely hard to break out of that mindset, even years later. On that, I think it's just a day by day matter: work on slowly becoming more comfortable with masturbation and realize that a lot of what is circulated around Christianity as 'bad' now has either been misinterepreted or is complete scaremongering.

If it makes you feel better, Jesus was a nineteen-year-old boy once. :biggrin:

Reply 2

unprinted

If your hormone levels dropped off like that, most teenage boys would have none at all.

After coming, there's a relaxation period that can leave you seeing things differently. That's not a reason to feel guilty.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Maybe because you come from a religious background. Overall, all religious condemn overindulgence (including sexually) so if you are religious then yes there might be reason for this, as there is someone to "judge" you?

However, I do masturbate and yes me and some of my friends feel the same way. Think of it like a drug; you get a high feel good feeling then after the comedown. Perhaps that's the reason you/ we feel like this. Maybe it's what you desires are if they seem socially unacceptable then maybe that's why, but as long as you know what you think or what you watch (porn etc.) is not real.

And by plagued do you mean uncontrollable thoughts? That could be sign of OCD which is not a bad thing generally. Look, as long as your not breaking the law or harming yourself or anyone then it's all fine. Perhaps take a break see how long you go that's what I do sometimes, and I do feel a lot better about myself.

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