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Should I be worried if my gf is bisexual?

Hi ,

I'll get down to it.

Im 6 months into a relationship with my girlfriend; love her to pieces (as much as you can for 6 months) I wouldnt consider myself as homophobic or anything like that.each to their own in my eyes.

She has only had relations with men and swears she is straight. However when she is on a night out she will tell people that 'X' lass is turning her on with her dancing or that she thinks 'X' person is hot.

I asked her about it the day after and she said no, that she was definitely straight and objected strongly. ( I did not offend , in fact if anything I supported ..and not in a hunt for a 3some way.)
She finally admitted that she does find some women attractive in a sexual way (which i knew because she watches lesbian porn) and if she saw two lasses kissing it would turn her on...she also said however that she doesnt think she would try anything with a lass..."doesn't think" She is constantly saying that certain actors are hot or that in OTINB soandso is hot and she only compliments my clothes if im wearing a top with a hot lass on "oh, didnt realise,..like that top more now"

She says that she is not Bi as she hasnt done anything sexual with a lass.. this makes it seem to as if she would be bi if she had the chance..?
During sex she also wants me to put my fingers in her mouth so she can..taste herself (couldnt think of a pleasant way to phrase it) does this mean she wants to try others or am i being irrational?

I'm more paranoid that she is going to get with a girl other than a lad on a night out..I see either as cheating.
I want her to 'find herself' but not to get bored of me as as we both know..i dont have the female anatomy :') and go for a woman?

Anyone been through/ going through something like this?
Am I being a dick?

Thanks :biggrin:
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
Hi ,

I'll get down to it.

Im 6 months into a relationship with my girlfriend; love her to pieces (as much as you can for 6 months) I wouldnt consider myself as homophobic or anything like that.each to their own in my eyes.

She has only had relations with men and swears she is straight. However when she is on a night out she will tell people that 'X' lass is turning her on with her dancing or that she thinks 'X' person is hot.

I asked her about it the day after and she said no, that she was definitely straight and objected strongly. ( I did not offend , in fact if anything I supported ..and not in a hunt for a 3some way.)
She finally admitted that she does find some women attractive in a sexual way (which i knew because she watches lesbian porn) and if she saw two lasses kissing it would turn her on...she also said however that she doesnt think she would try anything with a lass..."doesn't think" She is constantly saying that certain actors are hot or that in OTINB soandso is hot and she only compliments my clothes if im wearing a top with a hot lass on "oh, didnt realise,..like that top more now"

She says that she is not Bi as she hasnt done anything sexual with a lass.. this makes it seem to as if she would be bi if she had the chance..?
During sex she also wants me to put my fingers in her mouth so she can..taste herself (couldnt think of a pleasant way to phrase it) does this mean she wants to try others or am i being irrational?

I'm more paranoid that she is going to get with a girl other than a lad on a night out..I see either as cheating.
I want her to 'find herself' but not to get bored of me as as we both know..i dont have the female anatomy :':wink: and go for a woman?

Anyone been through/ going through something like this?
Am I being a dick?

Thanks :biggrin:
She sounds exactly like a normal girl. You, however, sound a little insecure - just relax :yy:
If you're really concerned, have a chat with her... Be totally open and voice every single concern. She will admire your honesty and reflect it as well.
If your relationship has lasted for 6 months then she probably really does love you. You won't really get a clear textbook answer on here tbh.
Reply 3
So what if she is bi? If you're in a monogamous relationship what difference does it make? She's still human and she will notice other hot guys too, and you trust her not to cheat right? This is no different. Source: bisexual lady happily with one man.
Reply 4
If someone's gonna cheat, they can do so regardless of sexuality.

If you trust someone, it shouldn't matter who they're attracted to.
I doubt it would make a difference. If the individual you were dating was prone to cheating, they would cheat whether they were straight or bisexual. I can understand where you're coming from, but there's really nothing to worry about.
Reply 6
Original post by podsfer
If someone's gonna cheat, they can do so regardless of sexuality.

If you trust someone, it shouldn't matter who they're attracted to.


Exactly!

Being bisexual doesn't mean if you're in a relationship with one gender you aren't satisfied. That's ludicrous :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Hi ,

I'll get down to it.

Im 6 months into a relationship with my girlfriend; love her to pieces (as much as you can for 6 months) I wouldnt consider myself as homophobic or anything like that.each to their own in my eyes.

She has only had relations with men and swears she is straight. However when she is on a night out she will tell people that 'X' lass is turning her on with her dancing or that she thinks 'X' person is hot.

I asked her about it the day after and she said no, that she was definitely straight and objected strongly. ( I did not offend , in fact if anything I supported ..and not in a hunt for a 3some way.)
She finally admitted that she does find some women attractive in a sexual way (which i knew because she watches lesbian porn) and if she saw two lasses kissing it would turn her on...she also said however that she doesnt think she would try anything with a lass..."doesn't think" She is constantly saying that certain actors are hot or that in OTINB soandso is hot and she only compliments my clothes if im wearing a top with a hot lass on "oh, didnt realise,..like that top more now"

She says that she is not Bi as she hasnt done anything sexual with a lass.. this makes it seem to as if she would be bi if she had the chance..?
During sex she also wants me to put my fingers in her mouth so she can..taste herself (couldnt think of a pleasant way to phrase it) does this mean she wants to try others or am i being irrational?

I'm more paranoid that she is going to get with a girl other than a lad on a night out..I see either as cheating.
I want her to 'find herself' but not to get bored of me as as we both know..i dont have the female anatomy :':wink: and go for a woman?

Anyone been through/ going through something like this?
Am I being a dick?

Thanks :biggrin:


Well, yes, you should be a little worried. If mine were of that nature (God forbid), I would say 'bi-bi' to her.

My sincere apologies for that.
Do you not have needs towards women or things you want to experience?
Reply 9
We r in a same situation difference is only that I'm 16 yrs old nd I dunno that I should date my bi girl anymore or not
Of course, u should worry. Sooner or later u gonna have a problem with her. So, u better quit and move on. The truth always hurt but there no way around it. There are more girls out there who are straight and God fearing. Pray and open ur eyes cos this world is already ****ed up.

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