How would you feel if you had a gay roommate in university?
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Original post by Danno190
I kind of float somewhere between Brent Corrigan and Colby Keller. I suppose you couldn't really get two more different ones if you tried!
I dont watch Porn, so i dont know about them. I googled and I do not find them attractive.
Original post by Anonymous
I dont watch Porn, so i dont know about them. I googled and I do not find them attractive.
Different strokes for different folks I guess
Original post by colourtheory
I couldn't care less if you're into kink because it doesn't lead to degrading comments about your sexuality
lol sure buddy whatever you say, pretty much the only acceptable fetish/paraphilia is BDSM and that's due to some "it's edgy" BS the likes of fifty shades have come out with it, even when the most extreme thing on their mind is a light paddling to the rear end. Hell as fetishes go a strong foot fetish is amongst the more commonly read about, but you're getting a lot more eyebrows if you come out with having that than being gay (not got one btw, just as an example).
But regardless, I hope for your own security and sanity for both parties you don't ever have to suffer one of them cis-white types.
I find it really sad that you even need to ask this OP 
you shouldn't worry what a potential roommate will think of your sexuality. If they don't like it they will ask to change rooms I imagine and you're better off then anyway if that's the case.
I had a gay housemate in my final year. The only thing that did annoy me was that he had sex, a lot, very loudly, pretty much every day...but that would've annoyed me equally if it was a hetero person, didn't bother me that it was gay sex
you shouldn't worry what a potential roommate will think of your sexuality. If they don't like it they will ask to change rooms I imagine and you're better off then anyway if that's the case. I had a gay housemate in my final year. The only thing that did annoy me was that he had sex, a lot, very loudly, pretty much every day...but that would've annoyed me equally if it was a hetero person, didn't bother me that it was gay sex
I would make sure to keep my door locked at night, I will have garlics hung in my room and both a silver bullet and stake at the ready.
If it was just a bloke that happened to be gay I would be surprised but it would not be an issue if he was a camp gay mani may have a small problem with that but you would have to be REALLY gay if you know what I mean.
Original post by New- Emperor
If it was just a bloke that happened to be gay I would be surprised but it would not be an issue if he was a camp gay mani may have a small problem with that but you would have to be REALLY gay if you know what I mean.
I am not camp at all lol One of my friends is gay too and he always tells me I am the complete opposite of the stereotype
Original post by infairverona
I find it really sad that you even need to ask this OP you shouldn't worry what a potential roommate will think of your sexuality. If they don't like it they will ask to change rooms I imagine and you're better off then anyway if that's the case.
I had a gay housemate in my final year. The only thing that did annoy me was that he had sex, a lot, very loudly, pretty much every day...but that would've annoyed me equally if it was a hetero person, didn't bother me that it was gay sex
you shouldn't worry what a potential roommate will think of your sexuality. If they don't like it they will ask to change rooms I imagine and you're better off then anyway if that's the case. I had a gay housemate in my final year. The only thing that did annoy me was that he had sex, a lot, very loudly, pretty much every day...but that would've annoyed me equally if it was a hetero person, didn't bother me that it was gay sex
Well, I need to think about it! If my sexuality creates an unconfortable environment that isn't good for me or my roommate!
That must be hella annoying lol
Original post by colourtheory
Not really the same thing, is it?
We live in a heavily sexualised culture and one which promotes the sexual objectification of women. A woman should feel comfortable in her own bedroom without worrying about being sexualised by her room mate. A woman's personal space is her own and she shouldn't have to be worried about being shamed, for example, about who she chooses to sleep with and she should't have to hide the fact that she's on her period. A female room mate is likely to be more understanding. A woman should not fear being oppressed by her room mate.
We live in a heavily sexualised culture and one which promotes the sexual objectification of women. A woman should feel comfortable in her own bedroom without worrying about being sexualised by her room mate. A woman's personal space is her own and she shouldn't have to be worried about being shamed, for example, about who she chooses to sleep with and she should't have to hide the fact that she's on her period. A female room mate is likely to be more understanding. A woman should not fear being oppressed by her room mate.
so what your saying a woman should not have any concern of unwanted sexual advances , but its ok for a straight man?
[QUOTE="colourtheory;58587749"]
A man refusing to share with another man because of his sexuality is to do with societal perceptions of homosexuality. For example, feeling like a guy is going to hit on you because he is gay is oppressive; it promotes particular stereotypes of gay men that is used to perpetuate their marginalisation. You have to remember that cis white straight men are the people with most advantage in our society. A woman not wanting to share with a man is fine because she is the oppressed and should do what makes her comfortable. A straight cis het white man not wanting to share with a gay man because of his sexuality is oppressive because it continues the marginalisation of LGBTQIA+ people. It reminds us that we're not equal and that our presence makes you uncomfortable. This perpetuates in-equality.
having seen a gay pride parade- it is highly sexualised with men simulating sex and men dressed as female prostitutes - it is very much part and parcel of gay culture. you can here any male gay comedian routine and its full of sexual reference.
again what you are trying to say above is its ok that a woman can feel sexually comfortable/protected, but not a straight man. surely you are perpetuating discrimination - or reverse discrimination
[QUOTE="Anonymous;58625665"]so what your saying a woman should not have any concern of unwanted sexual advances , but its ok for a straight man?
having seen a gay pride parade- it is highly sexualised with men simulating sex and men dressed as female prostitutes - it is very much part and parcel of gay culture. you can here any male gay comedian routine and its full of sexual reference.
again what you are trying to say above is its ok that a woman can feel sexually comfortable/protected, but not a straight man. surely you are perpetuating discrimination - or reverse discrimination
Original post by colourtheory
A man refusing to share with another man because of his sexuality is to do with societal perceptions of homosexuality. For example, feeling like a guy is going to hit on you because he is gay is oppressive; it promotes particular stereotypes of gay men that is used to perpetuate their marginalisation. You have to remember that cis white straight men are the people with most advantage in our society. A woman not wanting to share with a man is fine because she is the oppressed and should do what makes her comfortable. A straight cis het white man not wanting to share with a gay man because of his sexuality is oppressive because it continues the marginalisation of LGBTQIA+ people. It reminds us that we're not equal and that our presence makes you uncomfortable. This perpetuates in-equality.
A man refusing to share with another man because of his sexuality is to do with societal perceptions of homosexuality. For example, feeling like a guy is going to hit on you because he is gay is oppressive; it promotes particular stereotypes of gay men that is used to perpetuate their marginalisation. You have to remember that cis white straight men are the people with most advantage in our society. A woman not wanting to share with a man is fine because she is the oppressed and should do what makes her comfortable. A straight cis het white man not wanting to share with a gay man because of his sexuality is oppressive because it continues the marginalisation of LGBTQIA+ people. It reminds us that we're not equal and that our presence makes you uncomfortable. This perpetuates in-equality.
having seen a gay pride parade- it is highly sexualised with men simulating sex and men dressed as female prostitutes - it is very much part and parcel of gay culture. you can here any male gay comedian routine and its full of sexual reference.
again what you are trying to say above is its ok that a woman can feel sexually comfortable/protected, but not a straight man. surely you are perpetuating discrimination - or reverse discrimination
Original post by Anonymous
not really the same thing, is it?
We live in a heavily sexualised culture and one which promotes the sexual objectification of women. A woman should feel comfortable in her own bedroom without worrying about being sexualised by her room mate. A woman's personal space is her own and she shouldn't have to be worried about being shamed, for example, about who she chooses to sleep with and she should't have to hide the fact that she's on her period. A female room mate is likely to be more understanding. A woman should not fear being oppressed by her room mate
We live in a heavily sexualised culture and one which promotes the sexual objectification of women. A woman should feel comfortable in her own bedroom without worrying about being sexualised by her room mate. A woman's personal space is her own and she shouldn't have to be worried about being shamed, for example, about who she chooses to sleep with and she should't have to hide the fact that she's on her period. A female room mate is likely to be more understanding. A woman should not fear being oppressed by her room mate
Original post by colourtheory
A man refusing to share with another man because of his sexuality is to do with societal perceptions of homosexuality. For example, feeling like a guy is going to hit on you because he is gay is oppressive; it promotes particular stereotypes of gay men that is used to perpetuate their marginalisation. You have to remember that cis white straight men are the people with most advantage in our society. A woman not wanting to share with a man is fine because she is the oppressed and should do what makes her comfortable. A straight cis het white man not wanting to share with a gay man because of his sexuality is oppressive because it continues the marginalisation of LGBTQIA+ people. It reminds us that we're not equal and that our presence makes you uncomfortable. This perpetuates in-equality.
A man refusing to share with another man because of his sexuality is to do with societal perceptions of homosexuality. For example, feeling like a guy is going to hit on you because he is gay is oppressive; it promotes particular stereotypes of gay men that is used to perpetuate their marginalisation. You have to remember that cis white straight men are the people with most advantage in our society. A woman not wanting to share with a man is fine because she is the oppressed and should do what makes her comfortable. A straight cis het white man not wanting to share with a gay man because of his sexuality is oppressive because it continues the marginalisation of LGBTQIA+ people. It reminds us that we're not equal and that our presence makes you uncomfortable. This perpetuates in-equality.
having seen a gay pride parade- it is highly sexualised with men simulating sex and men dressed as female prostitutes - it is very much part and parcel of gay culture. you can here any male gay comedian routine and its full of sexual reference.
again what you are trying to say above is its ok that a woman can feel sexually comfortable/protected, but not a straight man. surely you are perpetuating discrimination - or reverse discrimination
Original post by driftawaay
I see the anonymous weaklings are in full force again
thats not a nice thing to say about the OP
Original post by driftawaay
A gay man and a straight men sharing a room isnt the same as a woman and a man sharing a room, since gay men are not women
Even you know you are being an idiot since you posted this anonymously. You bascially admit its homophobic.
A gay man and a straight men sharing a room isnt the same as a woman and a man sharing a room, since gay men are not women
Even you know you are being an idiot since you posted this anonymously. You bascially admit its homophobic.
whats the difference in the principle? or are you unable to put together a coherent argument and just good at hurling childish insults
Original post by Kittyboy
Do you even know what homophobia and sexism are lmfao?
yes. do you always answer a question with a question
Original post by Anonymous
thats not a nice thing to say about the OP
whats the difference in the principle? or are you unable to put together a coherent argument and just good at hurling childish insults
whats the difference in the principle? or are you unable to put together a coherent argument and just good at hurling childish insults
Pretending you are someone else to defend yourself just further proves that you are a weakling. I dont put together coherent arguments for people who cannot even voice their own opinions with their names attached to it, but some people are nice enough to do so, as another person who quoted you explained to you.
Original post by Anonymous
Hello everyone,
I applied for accommodation today. I wanted uncatered and ensuite. However, the only way to do this was to have a roommate, which I am completely ok with.
However, I am gay. I just hope that he will not feel unconfortable and it will not be awkward between us. Would you guys be unconfortable in your own room if you were sharing it with a gay guy?
I applied for accommodation today. I wanted uncatered and ensuite. However, the only way to do this was to have a roommate, which I am completely ok with.
However, I am gay. I just hope that he will not feel unconfortable and it will not be awkward between us. Would you guys be unconfortable in your own room if you were sharing it with a gay guy?
In my foundation year I had one guy in my halls, and after a few months I found him dressed up as a girl in the kitchen (fake boobs, wig, makeup).. Turns out he is a transvesti waiting to have a sex change... He was 18 as well ..
Original post by Anonymous
Hello everyone,
I applied for accommodation today. I wanted uncatered and ensuite. However, the only way to do this was to have a roommate, which I am completely ok with.
However, I am gay. I just hope that he will not feel unconfortable and it will not be awkward between us. Would you guys be unconfortable in your own room if you were sharing it with a gay guy?
I applied for accommodation today. I wanted uncatered and ensuite. However, the only way to do this was to have a roommate, which I am completely ok with.
However, I am gay. I just hope that he will not feel unconfortable and it will not be awkward between us. Would you guys be unconfortable in your own room if you were sharing it with a gay guy?
Personally, I couldn't care less.
I don't understand hetro guys who are homophobic. If you're definitely not homosexual then you don't need to worry about the other guy.
I have a bisexual mate, and it's all fine, except that at times he acts in a way that makes me feel like he is coming on to me (if it were a girl doing the same things I'd think she was coming on to me, so it's not some stereotyping in my head I don't think). That's the only thing that would bug me about a gay roommate, other than general bad habits
Original post by Anonymous
so what your saying a woman should not have any concern of unwanted sexual advances , but its ok for a straight man?
What I am saying is that the woman and the gay man are both the victims of oppression. The oppressor, the one in possession of advantage, is the straight man. That is what I am saying.
The fact that you think the straight man is going to be the victim of unwanted sexual advances is bloody ludicrous and actually oppressive. You're marginalising gay men in society to justify your position of advantage. What about all those women out there that are the victims of oppression committed by straight men and their uncalled for sexual advances? Check your privilege.
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