Ways to get closer and bond to men without sex?

Only if he doesnt find you attractive or already has a gf

Become a bro and swear an oath to the bro code = bonded

Serious answers please this is no laughing matter

Hey,
I'm just wanting some tips on how to get closer to guys without having sex with them.

To cut a long story short I used to have really low self esteem and thought all I was good for was men to screw as I felt I was unlovable and worthless. I slept with 3 guys I didn't know every well over the space of 5 years. I think I was trying to use sex as a way to get closer to them but now I realise that I should have got to know them better, and formed a deep emotional connection with them first. Having sex first and then trying to form a connection only hurt me and made me feel cheap. Please don't talk about how women can enjoy sex without emotion too etc. etc. because regardless of gender I personally am just not cut out for sex without emotion.

I appreciate that I probably sound really immature and naive after this but please can you suggest some ways to get closer to a guy whilst keeping all of our clothes on?

Hey,
I'm just wanting some tips on how to get closer to guys without having sex with them.

To cut a long story short I used to have really low self esteem and thought all I was good for was men to screw as I felt I was unlovable and worthless. I slept with 3 guys I didn't know every well over the space of 5 years. I think I was trying to use sex as a way to get closer to them but now I realise that I should have got to know them better, and formed a deep emotional connection with them first. Having sex first and then trying to form a connection only hurt me and made me feel cheap. Please don't talk about how women can enjoy sex without emotion too etc. etc. because regardless of gender I personally am just not cut out for sex without emotion.

I appreciate that I probably sound really immature and naive after this but please can you suggest some ways to get closer to a guy whilst keeping all of our clothes on?

Enjoy the things you have in common with them, be interested in their interests, meet up occasionally.. similar to getting to know a female best friend, I suppose.

Make friends with them and don't sleep with them.

Frequently attend more social situations where u can act like yourself, whilst getting to know other guys.

Do you still feel a connection with the other 3 guys u slept with btw?

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I was being serious :/
I thought u dont want to sleep with them

If you just want to sleep with them after you get to know them then just delay sleeping with them

I'm sorry I didn't make this question specific enough. In terms of dating and getting to know a guy how do I bond before having sex?

As above

This is a vile, abhorrent and truly disgusting way to speak to somebody of the community. Just how do you people sleep at night? This person is clearly extremely desperate and is calling upon us for aid, and you abuse that.

What sort of society do we live in when you can't even post on a forum about your life and it doesn't get slaughtered to f*ck?

Look at yourself, man.

Good name BTW and I do agree with your post.

Tbh I rind it hard to talk to guys without flirting qnd being sexual xx help xxx

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Make me and buy me food and you'll have me for life babe

try joining a meetup group, in fact the website meetup is good for social events and there is likely something in your area that you can enjoy and then your in the company of people with similar interests so you can talk to guys in a more relaxed way. not sure how much this helps you but i hope it is useful

Thank you that's good advice I need to get out there and be more brave and try some meetups and activities.

Talk to them, text them, go out for food, cinema, bowling. Do social things that will lead to you communicating and learn things about his personality and attitude.

Just make sure you aren't going to be in a house or any other place where sex could easily arise, atleast until you are happy with them.

Okay thanks for your input and another question I hope you don't mind.. When it does come to sex eventually and going to each others homes I would like to take it slow and build it up as we build trust i.e. not do everything as once! How do I go about conveying this? Thank you.