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coping with celibacy

I am unemployed with mental ill health and aspergers. my conditions render me incapable of forming relationships and I've been this way 11 years. how do I cope with celibacy?

should I quit touching myself and watching porn? I'm virtually impotent on medication anyway.
Reply 1
guys?
Reply 2
come on you guys on here must have experience of this :tongue:

how do you cope?
Well, if I were in your position I'd just tug when the urge arose. If you don't get the urge anymore though then what's the issue?
Reply 4
Original post by WoodyMKC
Well, if I were in your position I'd just tug when the urge arose. If you don't get the urge anymore though then what's the issue?


feel excluded and left out. deeper seated issue maybe.

I feel like a kid who has been left out of life's mystery
Why dont you find a job first. Then sex will come to you.
Reply 6
Original post by FlyingNinja1
Why dont you find a job first. Then sex will come to you.


I'm very disabled
Original post by nohomo
feel excluded and left out. deeper seated issue maybe.

I feel like a kid who has been left out of life's mystery


Well, why not have a name change to cheer yourself up? Since you're going asexual... nohomonohetero?
Original post by nohomo
I'm very disabled


how disabled
Original post by FlyingNinja1
Why dont you find a job first. Then sex will come to you.


Terrible advice. Bitches they will come in, do the job, make small talk with you and then just go home. Except on Fri nights when they're (pretending not to be) on the hunt for cocks with a gaggle of a dozen other handbags.

I would just create your own world away from women, everyday western *******s. Keep it underground.
Reply 10
There's not a huge amount you can really do to be honest. There's plenty of stuff out there about not masturbating (Google "No fap". There's subreddits and so on) but I don't know that it'd actually make you feel any better to stop. You can give a go, anyway, try the whole "no fap month" thing and see how it works out for you.

I'd question whether your conditions make you completely incapable of forming relationships. You'd be surprised by how capable even severely disabled people are of having relationships if they put the effort in, whether the disability is physical or mental. I know from experience that asperger's certainly doesn't preclude relationships, even if it makes them more difficult, although I don't know what else you have.

You could always become a monk. They have to be celibate anyway. :wink:

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