Bereavement Help and Support

Sorry, I thought I had replied, but time is getting away from me It's so difficult when it's this stage - everything is still so raw but people think you are moving on, which is simply not the case. It's only been 4 months, it's no time at all! Over 4 years on and I still have my bad days, and that's completely fine. Do you not have anyone who understands? I find there are normally at least one of two people who are more understanding. You'll find people are more there for you than it seems, they probably don't want to say the wrong thing! If it was in the reverse situation I'm sure you wouldn't mind but would be cautious about what you said - people are generally a lot more understanding than we think

Try writing things down or even creating a blog if you need to let stuff out without feeling like a burden

Grandad passed away at 6:05pm tonight...

I cried for a solid 5 minutes and now I just feel numb. Mum phoned to tell me (I don't live with my parents) and apparently he passed away when he was 'sleeping' (he's been in a coma-like state). She still has to tell my brother and sister.

I have college tomorrow...

So sorry to hear this.

Sounds like I had a similar experience to you though. Crying for five straight min when the doctor came in (I knew it was bad news since he was clearly the consultant). After that, nothing. Just as well since my next phone calls were to inform my brother and sister..

Did you go to college?

I returned to uni two days after - the lectures provided some relief even if it was just for those two hours.

PM if you'd like to talk x

I didn't go to college on Monday but I did yesterday... So glad I did! I was literally going crazy at home

There's only so much time you can have off before needing distraction (one day felt like ages and made me go crazy too). Just don't feel like you can't have another day off if you need, I got into that trap of thinking 'oh well I've had a day off and time to get my head around it I can't have another one' - really wasn't the case at all, I should have had more time. How are you feeling? How's college?

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This year is my 12th Father's Day since his passing and I guess I d hoped it would stop being a painful time by now, but even just seeing the onslaught of TVs adverts is making me feel quite upset this year

I was going to post in here, but couldn't bring myself to and then forgot. My grandad passed away a few weeks ago. I'm not sure I've really come to terms with it yet, I've been keeping so busy. We were really close and I miss him every day. The funeral hasn't been yet because of dates, so that's next week. Hopefully it will help me get some closure because it all feels like a bad dream at the moment.





Do you find anything that helps?

I'm only in my 4th year since my dad passed away and it still hurts too. I just pretend he's still here and it helps a bit, but not enough.

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It's hard losing a loved one, I lost my father christmas 2014, so christmas is awful and father's day. It was during my AS year and now i'm doing a2s there's been so much pressure trying to get the grades which I haven't got (ABB) for uni.. All my love to everyone here who's lost someone! x

losing someone you love around christmas is absolutely awful, i don't know if it's any comfort but time is a good healer, for me i think fathers day and other special occasions where people have their dads normally and i can't will always be painful but it does get easier.

It is awful, christmas is sad now. Worst time of the year! Thats true, it does, but its crazy how one person going can make a difference in the family, so much has changed

My father died two weeks before my sixteenth birthday- mid way through my year 11 GCSEs (I am now 18 and start uni in September). He was an older parent with children (15+ years older than me) and due to his age I always subconsciously knew he would die when I was young, but it didn't make it any easier when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer (he had a brain tumour). My mum, who I have never been as close too, told me it wasn't cancer, despite my olderr brother telling me so. She didn't make it easy when he was ill and I will never forgive her for the things that she did, but I am now struggling and I don't know what to do. She hasn never been there for me, only seems to care when she's in front of other people and never takes an interest in me. I also want a relationship with my dads other children, and although she has never denied me this, she make sure it very difficult as she will slander them to me and due to her actions when my dad was ill, they do not want a relationship with her and she can't understand why.

Quite honestly, I feel alone (even though there are so many people around me who love me). I want my mum to be a real mum but that will never happen. I am asking for advice now as I want a closer relationship with my dads children but I don't know how. They all have their own lives and whilst I know they care, I don't get to see them often because they live so far away. I don't want to be a nuisance to them but I want to have a relationship with them. I also don't know how to go about it because my auntie cries everytime she sees me because I remind her of dad so I don't know whether to just leave them because I don't want to cause them more pain.

Hi there. Really sorry to hear this my dad also died not long before I was 16 when I was in year 11 and doing my GCSEs. I was really struggling when I was 18 too. I luckily got counselling and CBT at this point - have you been able to get any support?

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I want to talk about everything that happened and make sense of it all, but 7 months on and I feel that people don't want to hear how I'm not coping anymore.

I want to talk about everything that happened and make sense of it all, but 7 months on and I feel that people don't want to hear how I'm not coping anymore.

7 months is very little time. I still need to talk to people about stuff nearly 7 years on. Make sure you talk to someone you trust and who is patient, you can also use a bereavement counsellor