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I'm a Muslim...and he wants to go out for lunch.

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Tbh, just think about the consequences of going out to lunch with him. You'll have to answer questions about it on the day of Judgement just saying.
Some of the replies on this thread are beyond hilarious.

Original post by thexxsaiiraxx
Tbh, just think about the consequences of going out to lunch with him.

lmfao
Ffs just go out for lunch with him, it's just a normal thing to do and no, it's not wrong. Smh, people acting like he's some James Deen figure who's gonna bend her over in Subway :facepalm:
Original post by Skip_Snip
Lunch is what you make of it. If you don't want it to be a date, then it's not. If you want to hang out, but just as friends, that's all you'll be. Don't let people bully you with rubbish like "Shaytaan is there if you thee hang out with a boy without thine chaperone".


Thank you. :smile:

Original post by angelcake123
'Shaitaan' can tempt but surely he cannot control? Even if he does tempt her, she can still control/stop herself from making 'one thing lead to the next'...



He probably is incredibly kind. I think you should give him a chance and get to know him more. You guys can have fun without kissing, holding hands etc. It would be a shame if your religion is what stops you from actually developing an additional potential happy thing to your life. But its your choice and your life :tongue:

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Thank you for all your advice, yeah I obviously wasn't planning on doing any of that. Yep, I just wanted to be sure that I wasnt doing anything bad but by the looks of these posts, apparently I am . Idk. :tongue:

Original post by HAnwar
Firstly, you don't know how the guy is going to act.

Secondly, Islam has rules for a reason.
This may sound like an exaggeration, but you don't know what will start from that first lunch. I'm not saying it will, but it could lead to something else. That's why there are rules to prevent such a thing happening.

For example, some may argue that a little bit of alcohol won't harm you and can't get drunk on it, but Islam has completely forbidden it because of what it can lead to and to prevent something much worse from happening.


Thanks for your comment...I dont know, I suppose I understand where youre coming from but I really dont see how lunch could lead into something else . When you drink alcohol theres a chance of being drunk and therefore making informed decisions, this doesnt apply to a salad? Thanks for the advice. :smile:
Original post by moroccan beauty


There is no friendship between a girl and a boy in islam.


You dont have friends of the opposite gender? ;/
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It's not that deep :K:
Original post by thefreakoffreaks
This is the reason i don't follow hadiths lmaoooo soo stupid


lol fagg you do realize we only know how to pray because of the hadiths right? its no where mentioned in the quran how to perform islamic prayers

gtfo stupid quranists
Original post by Anonymous
From what i know, theres nothing wrong with socialising out of friendship when theres only two of you,
What i can assume is that his asking you out for a date, as there are only two of you.
You should ask him if it is a date. If he confirms it is one, its not rude to turn it down lol.
If its to socialise, then go obviously, as that WOULD be rude.

As muslims, We are encouraged to have relationships with those from the book, Those who follow the Quran, The bible, or The Torah.

I hope that helped.


Wouldnt it be awkward if I asked that? Thank you though, i thought it'd be rude too bt idk anymore. :smile:
Just go for it lass. While you still can.

Me and my buddies will be coming for all of you soon. Our crusade will be successful this time!

I'm just japing :biggrin:
The fact is you are not allowed to go out with a non mehram person whether its a date or not according to Islam. But if you don't want to believe that and want to do what ever you feel like then don't bother asking pointless questions.
Original post by Anonymous
You dont have friends of the opposite gender? ;/


Unfortunately i dont :frown:

Although i do wish i had a girlfriend.. Or some :smug:


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Come into the 21st century and go to lunch with him
Original post by thexxsaiiraxx
Tbh, just think about the consequences of going out to lunch with him. You'll have to answer questions about it on the day of Judgement just saying.


Wow! Theyre having lunch. You telling me you never spoke to a guy?.
Original post by Anonymous
lol fagg you do realize we only know how to pray because of the hadiths right? its no where mentioned in the quran how to perform islamic prayers

gtfo stupid quranists


Smh did those hadiths also teach you to call others 'faggs'?
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Original post by Anonymous
Thank you. :smile:



Thank you for all your advice, yeah I obviously wasn't planning on doing any of that. Yep, I just wanted to be sure that I wasnt doing anything bad but by the looks of these posts, apparently I am . Idk. :tongue:



Thanks for your comment...I dont know, I suppose I understand where youre coming from but I really dont see how lunch could lead into something else . When you drink alcohol theres a chance of being drunk and therefore making informed decisions, this doesnt apply to a salad? Thanks for the advice. :smile:


Alcohol was just an example I gave.

Ultimately it comes down to you and how religious you are.
Personally I would reject the offer politely and try to explain why you are unable to come. He should understand and respect your decision.

I gave you advice from the hadith. Take it how you want.
Original post by ftahir02
If you were a committed and good Muslim, you would have said no there and then.


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It's over text and I havent replied yet, what makes you think that Im not a commited or "good" muslim. Im asking because I was unsure..I havent done anything bad?
Original post by thexxsaiiraxx
Tbh, just think about the consequences of going out to lunch with him. You'll have to answer questions about it on the day of Judgement just saying.


Lol don't be ridiculous, no she won't.
Allah says in the qur'an do not even come close to zina. Do not even go near it

And this is the advice of our creator, the one who owns the heavens and the earth, the one who knows us best
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What's the big deal? By having lunch with a guy you're not sleeping around

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Original post by Vegito
The fact is you are not allowed to go out with a non mehram person whether its a date or not according to Islam. But if you don't want to believe that and want to do what ever you feel like then don't bother asking pointless questions.


It wasn't a pointless question..I needed advice. Clearly, thats too much to ask for. ;/

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