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I'm pregnant

I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time like few weeks ago and he was wearing a condom but I found out that I'm 4 weeks pregnant yesterday. How on earth is that possible? I'm only 18 years old and I don't want to have a baby now. I'm going to Uni soon and I don't know what to do. I haven't told anyone yet about this. If my mom and my step dad came to know about this, I'll get kicked out! :frown:

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Reply 1
Are you sure your parents would kick you out for having sex at 18? That's pretty normal. No contraception is 100% perfect, though usually it's noticeable when a condom goes wrong.
Get an abortion. But first talk to your boyfriend about it
Banter
I'm sorry to hear this. Just really bad luck, I'm afraid. But all is not lost. You can have the pregnancy terminated, your parents do not need to find out, nor does anyone else. It's doctor-patient confidentiality.
Reply 5
go to your gp asap, they should refer you to a specialist who will give you your options
Reply 6
Original post by Hanvyj
Are you sure your parents would kick you out for having sex at 18? That's pretty normal. No contraception is 100% perfect, though usually it's noticeable when a condom goes wrong.



Yeah they would because my parents are conservative, traditional Catholics! I don't know what to do about this arghh!
Reply 7
Do not abort the baby, killing another member of Homo sapiens is unacceptable. In the end it's only 9 months, you can give the baby up for adoption.


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Contraception isn't 100% full-proof. Could have had a hole in it, could have slipped off part way etc. Not telling anyone now is making it worse, the longer you leave it the worst it will become, seriously, deal with the situation as early on as you can so you have more options. Tell your parents.
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah they would because my parents are conservative, traditional Catholics! I don't know what to do about this arghh!


Why not have an abortion?
I don't want this to be turned into an abortion debate (it probably will be lmao). But you could always take a gap year or something? At 18 years, I'm guessing you know no condom is 100% protective so you did take that risk. But there's no point having regrets now and stuff, but good luck :smile:

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Speak to your boyfriend, and ask his opinion
It'd be unfair to terminate the pregnancy without him knowing
Hm, and yeah good luck
Poor baby tho :frown:


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Original post by SebUK
Do not abort the baby, killing another member of Homo sapiens is unacceptable. In the end it's only 9 months, you can give the baby up for adoption.


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Okay, how is she supposed to conceal the pregnancy for 9 months? She already indicated she doesn't want her parents knowing.
Have an abortion or have the baby and don't go to university it's up to you. Sorry to put it bluntly. Since you are 18 I am sure you can have an abortion without your parents knowledge.
if you don't want your parents finding out it seems there's likely to be only one option
Reply 15
Original post by Imperion
Okay, how is she supposed to conceal the pregnancy for 9 months? She already indicated she doesn't want her parents knowing.


She is going to have to reveal the pregnancy.


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Original post by Imperion
Okay, how is she supposed to conceal the pregnancy for 9 months? She already indicated she doesn't want her parents knowing.


She's 18, she's mature enough to have a conversation with her parents about this. Her parents are Catholic, so they won't want an abortion, but they are more likely to support her through the pregnancy than to abandon her. My friend was pregnant at 15 with strict Catholic parents and they learnt to accept the situation. When she's at uni, the parents could look after the baby or it could be given up for adoption. I'm not saying she could do this, but I'm saying it does answer your question :smile:

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Original post by SebUK
She is going to have to reveal the pregnancy.


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She doesn't have to do anything. It is her body. Her decision.
Original post by SebUK
She is going to have to reveal the pregnancy.


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Jeopardize the relationship she has with her parents or give life to a child she hasn't yet seen.... jeez man. Such advice much wow. She's in a delicate situation :/ Meh, anyway what do I know?
Original post by angelcake123
She's 18, she's mature enough to have a conversation with her parents about this. Her parents are Catholic, so they won't want an abortion, but they are more likely to support her through the pregnancy than to abandon her. My friend was pregnant at 15 with strict Catholic parents and they learnt to accept the situation. When she's at uni, the parents could look after the baby or it could be given up for adoption. I'm not saying she could do this, but I'm saying it does answer your question :smile:

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I'm not too sure about that... but eh, I guess you're right.

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