Scared I'll end up alone

I may only be 22 but seeing everyone around me in relationships is starting to bother me and make me think that I'll end up alone. I know people will say I'm still young but it doesn't stop me worrying.

Reply 1

HipsAndHearts

10

I would recommend learning to be happy being alone and then appreciating that special someone more when they appear.

But failing that go on some dates/ join some dating sites/ buy some cats?

Reply 2

starlight82

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It's natural to feel like that, especially if you're seeing everyone else in a relationship around you. But the fact is, you are still young (sorry, I'm on those people lol), there is time for you to meet someone. May I ask, are you actively seeking a relationship or just waiting for someone to like you? If you're worried, try to make a few changes in your life so there's a better chance for you to find someone :smile:

Reply 3

ilovethe1975

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The minute you find someone that is so perfect for you and you settle down, you'll forget all about feeling like this. Trust me, it all gets better. You just gotta be a little bit patient. x

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by starlight82

It's natural to feel like that, especially if you're seeing everyone else in a relationship around you. But the fact is, you are still young (sorry, I'm on those people lol), there is time for you to meet someone. May I ask, are you actively seeking a relationship or just waiting for someone to like you? If you're worried, try to make a few changes in your life so there's a better chance for you to find someone :smile:

I'd say I'm doing a bit of both to be honest, I do want a relationship but everyone tells me that when I stop looking I'll find someone. So I feel a bit like I'm in a catch 22 at the moment.

Reply 5

candycaneland500

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Original post by Anonymous

I may only be 22 but seeing everyone around me in relationships is starting to bother me and make me think that I'll end up alone. I know people will say I'm still young but it doesn't stop me worrying.

dont worry you are still young you will find someone who loves you. dont worry too much about it yet.

Reply 6

domlang123

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I'm feeling like this and am only seventeen. Keep to the advice given by others on this thread, and I'm sure it will work out. Out of the four of us, two are in relationships, so it bothers me a lot. I wouldn't consider myself good looking (never been called it, don't get much attention from girls, etc), and if I'm lucky, I'll have one in depth conversation with a girl a week. But keep trying and I'm sure you'll manage. Prove that you manage on your own, though. That will help. Don't come across as desperate.

Reply 7

william walker

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So was I until I became friends with perfection. :h:

Reply 8

mewter

Masturbate more. No really masturbation increases endorphine levels. Endorphine makes you happy and less lonely. And of course keep to advices here. They are really helpful.

Reply 9

username47781

20

You're only 22, you got ages to find someone, plus you're more likely to find someone when you are not looking so hard.

Reply 10

starlight82

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Original post by Anonymous

I'd say I'm doing a bit of both to be honest, I do want a relationship but everyone tells me that when I stop looking I'll find someone. So I feel a bit like I'm in a catch 22 at the moment.

Strange, I just received your reply now even though you sent it three hours ago :s-smilie:

What everyone is saying holds some truth. Usually when you stop looking, things start looking up (not all the time though). If you're actively searching, don't put too much faith in it for now. As in, if you find someone then great and if not, then it's not the end of the world. Don't want it too much or you'll just be left disappointed. The fact that everyone else is in a relationship is what's making you too aware of your own singledom. Have patience and hopefully things will start happening for you soon. In the meantime, keep socialising with new people, smile, be happy and be confident by yourself - confidence is attractive. You have time hun, don't worry. Good luck x

Reply 11

username1854431

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In be4 the guy that says get a guinea pig/hamster

Reply 12

Smilin’ Knight

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Original post by HipsAndHearts

I would recommend learning to be happy being alone and then appreciating that special someone more when they appear.But failing that go on some dates/ join some dating sites/ buy some cats?

Original post by Starvation13

In be4 the guy that says get a guinea pig/hamster

missed it mate :wink:

, well she did say cats not hamsters i guess :tongue:

Original post by Rock Fan

You're only 22, you got ages to find someone, plus you're more likely to find someone when you are not looking so hard.

Also i call BS on this statement. Waiting for life to happen around you doesn't work.

Reply 13

username47781

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Original post by Smilin’ Knight

missed it mate :wink:

, well she did say cats not hamsters i guess :tongue:

Also i call BS on this statement. Waiting for life to happen around you doesn't work.

It worked for me just saying.

Reply 14

username2191987

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Original post by domlang123

I'm feeling like this and am only seventeen. Keep to the advice given by others on this thread, and I'm sure it will work out. Out of the four of us, two are in relationships, so it bothers me a lot. I wouldn't consider myself good looking (never been called it, don't get much attention from girls, etc), and if I'm lucky, I'll have one in depth conversation with a girl a week. But keep trying and I'm sure you'll manage. Prove that you manage on your own, though. That will help. Don't come across as desperate.

Wow. You sound older than 17, you are like a wise old sage. Good for you.

Reply 15

username2191987

15

This is a bit tongue in cheek ...
Borrow a baby or a dog. Obviously make sure it's legit or you'll end up in prison. Those films that show the guy out withe the baby or the dog are true. When my son was a baby I was approached repeatedly everywhere I went by women and I don't mean grannies. Shopping was a nightmare: I never got anything done. The dog works too. Now this isn't about women being shallow and easily fooled: it demonstrates your responsibility and maturity but, above all: it starts conversations and that leads to proper interaction and communication and confidence.
Don't buy a cat.