Gay people of tsr

You can come out on TSR!

The person said 'how do you feel about the opposite sex - its the same for me'.

But how can it be the same?

Guess so, I just don't want some people I know irl to ever find out ;/ I wishhhh I wasn't gay so I hate the thought of coming out or telling everyone yknow

At what age did you realise that you're a homosexual?
Did you embrace your homosexuality, or did you, or do you hate it?
If you had the choice, would you rather be straight?
What does it feel like to be a homosexual?

What he said is that he feels the same about the same sex as straight people feel about the opposite sex. Sexual attraction and romantic feelings feel the same regardless of sexual orientation.

Educated guess. How else would being homosexual affect one's behaviour/desires, if not sexually?

It's nice to get support, even if it is online.. if you were to make an account with an untraceable name and use it solely for communicating with other people to get support, I think it would help get things off of your chest. Did for me, anyway.

Coming from another anon.. I feel like such a hypocrite. XD

Behaviour and desires do not have to be sexual in nature.

I don't think it's as simple as that?

I'm attracted to women precisely because they are so different to me in many aspects.

Unless....this is where the whole butch/flamboyant gay thing comes in.

You find women attractive. I find men attractive. That's what I meant when I said that it's the same for me, just with the same sex.
I suppose some people are attracted to people who are different to themselves. But just because it's same sex attraction doesn't mean that there are no differences between the two lovers. For example, there are many, many male body types (thin, average, built...) as well as personalities and stuff like that.

Would you find somebody who has the same body type as you attractive?

I'm asexual - it's not gay by any means, but it's still a sexual minority so I'll answer anyway

1. It was when I had just turned 15 and I'd never really thought about it before - if anything I just assumed I was straight I guess - but about that time I was starting to kind of wonder why I wasn't feeling 'attracted' to girls like everyone else, and I even thought I might be gay for a while, but I didn't feel attracted to guys either, so I was really in a muddle - at that point I'd never heard of asexuality. Then just by chance my biology teacher told the class to research homosexuality, and while I was doing that I went off on a bit of a tangent, ended up on the AVEN asexuality website out of curiosity and there was a list of criteria for being asexual which literally fitted me perfectly, and that was that.

2. It's just a part of who I am tbh and I can't really change that so I just accept it tbh.

3. Meh. In some ways yes and in some ways no. On one hand it's not well-known at all and my family still haven't really got to grips with it, so I still get comments like 'when you have a wife and kids you'll do this, this and this' and a lot of people tell me that there's something wrong with me/I have a hormone disorder(which isn't true) when they find out, which is really annoying, but on the other hand I don't see a pretty girl and immediately think 'how can I get in her pants'.

4. You know how as a straight person you just wouldn't get with someone of the same gender? It's basically the same thing for me but with both genders

Omg yes of course I have fancied lots of straight girls, every gay person has unfortunately, lol. I have been totally infatuated with straight girls and its horrible and painful af. Bane of my life. Esp when I was younger and they had a boyfriend and I just thought ewww and I hated their boyfriend cause I was SO jealous haha.

Never been religious.

I have never wanted kids, in fact I have never liked kids, especially if they are under the age of 4. I would never give birth to a kid as it is not in my nature at all, however I will probably have a kid down the line because my future wife will probably want them, plus what am I gonna do when Im old lol. So I will probably either adopt or my wife will give birth to our children, but thats a very long time from now, like around the age of 40. But I may never have them, at the moment I have no wish to.

Honestly most gay kids growing up never come out until they are older, so they dont get treated badly cause no one knows they're gay. Out of all the gay people I knew growing up, most of them didnt come out until they were like 18, and the ones who were out were the flamboyant boys and everyone knew they were gay since they were in kindergarten and they were made fun of and called a faggot all their lives.

They don't but behaviour and desires that are a direct result of one's sexuality do have to be sexual in nature, which is why I asked why you thought things you did when you were four or five were somehow the product of your homosexuality.

At the end of the day, I'm not too bothered by it, but that does seem pretty difficult to believe. People at that age are lucky to know which way is up, let alone be concerned with matters of sexuality.

Now I would like to ask a few questions, that will help me get a better understanding of homosexuality as a whole.
At what age did you realise that you're a homosexual?
Did you embrace your homosexuality, or did you, or do you hate it?
If you had the choice, would you rather be straight?
What does it feel like to be a homosexual?

Well, how do they? Noticing you may like someone or something like that doesn't necessarily have to mean sexually. Emotionally, maybe?

What I mean, is I noticed certain things later that had happened earlier. For example, I had this attachment to an older boy in my primary school and I always wanted to be with him and in his teams and so on. Later on, I recognised the link that had to how I felt sexually and emotionally about boys. I never had that connection with girls even though the friends I had were predominantly women.

In all honesty, what you believe and what I know are two very different things. Please do not tell me how I developed and how I felt at a certain age is wrong or a lie. I know much more about myself than you do.

Emotional attachments have little to do with sexuality - there are plenty of cases of homosexuals who were in love with members of the opposite sex. The example that immediately comes to mind is that of Freddie Mercury, the Queen singer, and Mary Austin, a woman he dated for years before realising he was bisexual. He maintained that he continued to be in love with her despite by then being in exclusively same-sex relationships.

So yeah, I think the term I'd use for what you're saying is homoromantic or just coincidence - one can be drawn to somebody else for plenty of reasons and it can be a coincidence that one happens to be drawn only to people who happen to be men.



I didn't claim I knew more about you than I did; nor did I tell you how you developed. I'm just having a chat. If you can't explain something, it's better to just say so rather than accuse the other person of offences he's clearly not committed.

I suppose that's the end of that, since this is apparently a touchy subject...

Now I would like to ask a few questions, that will help me get a better understanding of homosexuality as a whole.

How can you possibly even plausibly argue that emotional attachment has little to do with sexuality? Of course it does. It all depends on the type of attachment and how you feel. You can't put things like emotions and attraction into a little box and label it - it just doesn't work like that. Ever. With any sexuality.

If Freddie Mercury was bisexual, it is still completely valid that he could have been in love with a woman and also, we're not talking about the process of discovering who you are. I knew quite categorically who I was from a young age. I never had the "confused state" phase.

It comes back to this: sexual orientation is incredibly complex and not limited by any black and white labels humans have stuck on various things. If I am telling you what my experience is and who I am, then you should be able to take that at face value as factual for ME. I'm not saying it is a general rule of thumb that things work that way but that is how it worked for me.

You did. You're rejecting my explanations because you don't believe them, when you have no basis to do so. I can explain my own feelings and my own life, so please stop thinking you are above that because it's quite frankly the worst way to prove you're ignorant as hell.

Please do not tell me how I developed and how I felt at a certain age is wrong or a lie. I know much more about myself than you do.

Yeah, I suppose so too. It's not touchy at all, except for those occasions where somebody tries to tell you your life and the way it has progressed isn't what you know it is at all.