Running away to the Netherlands

You call yourself smart and you're moving to Amsterdam to some guy you barely know?

p.s. i'm a smart girl btw don't patronise me

LOL yeah right


Thanks for the laugh. Now go and do your homework instead of procrastinating on TSR, young lady.

I'm 17.
I told my carers i'm going to visit friends but:

i've known this guy from twitter for years and we skype all the time. He wants me to go visit/live with him in Rotterdam (i think) and he's booked me a train ticket already(in 2 weeks) and is going to sort out anything else: school/ health insurance for me when i get there. He has his own flat with his brother and works so he's stable.

I'm SO desperate to do this since we have the best relationship (he's like my only friend) and i'm slightly head over heels. but i haven't told anyone bc i know they won't take me seriously. will i get in trouble for leaving the country without telling anyone? Will my school get involved?

Also i'm so nervous, i don't know dutch, i haven't met him in person, will it be "kidnapping" (he's slightly older)?? I don't want him to get in trouble.

I definitely WANT to do this but i'm nervous, TBH i think i'm going to visit first before i move permanently.

should i take a sum of money in case something happens and i have to go home? like what should i plan in advance it's kinda all over the place rn

so confused.
p.s. i'm a smart girl btw don't patronise me

Here's what I think:

You could visit him. But the first time you see him make sure it's in a public place in the city, so ask him to meet you somewhere public like a cafe in a shopping mall in Amsterdam. See how he's like, because truth is most of the time people are different in real life compared to their online personality.

You're clearly not. This is an extremely bad idea.

holy **** this sounds so dodgy, it's basically the plot for 'taken'. Going to visit someone you've never met, in another country, when no one knows where you are... you are going to get raped or murdered.

What if he takes your money and phone when you get there? He and his brother could do whatever they want to you and no one even know where you were, hell, you don't even know where you are going...

And if he likes you so much and can obviously afford a train ticket why has he not come and visited you in person? Why is an older man trying to lure a 17 year old to another country to his flat?

If you get on that train you are going to get hurt. Don't do it.

Everyone's just being so one sided! I would be 1000% happier there than i am here and i'm going to be with someone I like very much. I've known him for years, we've skyped, I've seen his brother. I know i can really trust this guy.
I'm planning on calling my carers when i get there so they don't file any missing person's report so i WON'T be on the news whoever said that.
I'll finish school out there. ffs I knew people would be judgmental.

Everyone's just being so one sided! I would be 1000% happier there than i am here and i'm going to be with someone I like very much. I've known him for years, we've skyped, I've seen his brother. I know i can really trust this guy.
I'm planning on calling my carers when i get there so they don't file any missing person's report so i WON'T be on the news whoever said that.
I'll finish school out there. ffs I knew people would be judgmental.

Everyone's just being so one sided! I would be 1000% happier there than i am here and i'm going to be with someone I like very much. I've known him for years, we've skyped, I've seen his brother. I know i can really trust this guy.
I'm planning on calling my carers when i get there so they don't file any missing person's report so i WON'T be on the news whoever said that.
I'll finish school out there. ffs I knew people would be judgmental.

I'm 17.
I told my carers i'm going to visit friends but:

i've known this guy from twitter for years and we skype all the time. He wants me to go visit/live with him in Rotterdam (i think) and he's booked me a train ticket already(in 2 weeks) and is going to sort out anything else: school/ health insurance for me when i get there. He has his own flat with his brother and works so he's stable.

I'm SO desperate to do this since we have the best relationship (he's like my only friend) and i'm slightly head over heels. but i haven't told anyone bc i know they won't take me seriously. will i get in trouble for leaving the country without telling anyone? Will my school get involved?

Also i'm so nervous, i don't know dutch, i haven't met him in person, will it be "kidnapping" (he's slightly older)?? I don't want him to get in trouble.

I definitely WANT to do this but i'm nervous, TBH i think i'm going to visit first before i move permanently.

should i take a sum of money in case something happens and i have to go home? like what should i plan in advance it's kinda all over the place rn

so confused.
p.s. i'm a smart girl btw don't patronise me