Surely I'm not the only lonley F*

Well my playlist went onto all american reject - move along.....

Well had a moment, how many other 20 something lonely f*'s do we have out there?

Tbh since leaving uni I'm the most active ever, fair few mates, but it just doesn't seem to be happening! *sigh*

It'll probably happen when you least expect it.

Tbh it most likely is not

I'm confused, is this thread about craving sex?

It'll probably happen when you least expect it.

My ex boyfriend broke up with me and I was distraught for months and was desperately trying to find someone new. After 7 months I finally decided I did not need a boyfriend and I was happy being single and independent and BAM met an amazing guy the very next day and been seeing him for the last month.

Things happen when you stop looking.

I feel like I get knocked down round after round when it comes to dating and people just keep saying "you'll find the one" and etc, but it just feels like time's running out. Like, how many frogs do you have to kiss for heaven's sake?

@DanB1991

Sorry for this off topic comment, but what is a f*?

Quite a few.

The tough part is not becoming jaded or cynical about the whole thing. Every relationship you learn something new about yourself and what you want, so you're better prepared for next time. If you want a relationship and you want to commit and you're willing to make the compromises and you know what red flags to avoid then you will find someone

I've kissed a lot - in terms of been on a million dates but it's the "there's no romantic connection there sorry" or "i'm not looking for what you're looking for". Rejection is not a nice thing and I can t ake a few, but when that "few" becomes "a few too many" you just don't know what to do how to handle that constant yearning for something to go right!

Yes, I think I know what to avoid: guys who make false promises and whispers sweet nothings into my ear. But that's the thing if a new guy did that would I be like "fool me once, shame on you, but fool me twice shame on me" approach or is it like "oh man, this is it - this is what i've been waiting for". The fear of both is that it could end up side ways.

I just can't take it anymore. I want a partner, but I feel like if I didn't date and have dating apps, I'd never find him! :/

I feel you! Do you think you're putting too much emotional investment in dates early on?

Dating apps are a blessing but also a curse in some ways. On the one hand you meet loads of people who are likely to be good matches for you (I can't imagine leaving it up to chance any more) which is really important, especially given that opportunities to meet people are less once you've left uni, but at the same time you open yourself up to loads of rejection. If it's getting too much then it's worth taking a break from it all I think.

Sorry you're feeling down about it at the moment

My ex boyfriend broke up with me and I was distraught for months and was desperately trying to find someone new. After 7 months I finally decided I did not need a boyfriend and I was happy being single and independent and BAM met an amazing guy the very next day and been seeing him for the last month.

Things happen when you stop looking.

The tough part is not becoming jaded or cynical about the whole thing. Every relationship you learn something new about yourself and what you want, so you're better prepared for next time. If you want a relationship and you want to commit and you're willing to make the compromises and you know what red flags to avoid then you will find someone

I've kissed a lot - in terms of been on a million dates but it's the "there's no romantic connection there sorry" or "i'm not looking for what you're looking for". Rejection is not a nice thing and I can t ake a few, but when that "few" becomes "a few too many" you just don't know what to do how to handle that constant yearning for something to go right!

*snip*

I just can't take it anymore. I want a partner, but I feel like if I didn't date and have dating apps, I'd never find him! :/

I feel you! Do you think you're putting too much emotional investment in dates early on?

Dating apps are a blessing but also a curse in some ways. On the one hand you meet loads of people who are likely to be good matches for you (I can't imagine leaving it up to chance any more) which is really important, especially given that opportunities to meet people are less once you've left uni, but at the same time you open yourself up to loads of rejection. If it's getting too much then it's worth taking a break from it all I think.

Well had a moment, how many other 20 something lonely f*'s do we have out there?

I had a fairly good social life when I was at uni but everyone left and just forgot about me. Nowadays I live alone and my social life consists of going to work and speaking to one person on WhatsApp (who lives 300 miles away). I met up with a friend on Thursday and it was the first time i'd even spoken to another person outside of work in over 3 months.

I'll never get a girlfriend and to be honest it looks like i'll never get any friends either.

Has a girl EVER (and i mean ever) shown interest in you? In any way.

Not really, i've never been on a date or anything. I've kissed a few people whilst incredibly drunk but that's it.

You'd think being friends with a load of girls would make it easy to meet someone as they could introduce you to their friends, tell you what you need to change in yourself etc but nope.