I need help; I want to forget about her
Help me guys 
I really need help, i'm a first year student who has been friendzoned by a girl (who is in second year). We have been pretty close as we met in the worst society in the university. But i need to let it go for several reasons.
1. She keeps persuading me to keep coming to the society (its a christian society)
2. I think she is unstable but is under the influence of a cultish christianity mindset, she cried at my face when we were sharing our personal lives
3. Also whilst sharing her personal life, when discussing about christianity, she said she used to have sex with her boyfriend whilst being a born again christian (this is where i was put off)
4. I have depression and anxiety and in general, a social outcast and i now think she is contributing to my depression because i'm not sure if i can take the lovesickness well.
I need to forget about her, i don't know if she is still with her boyfriend or something but it has put me off. Also she is leaving like in two years wheras im here for 4 - it wouldn't work relationship rise.
I don't want to be mentally ill like what some TSR users do when posting 'the same thread about being in love with a girl'. Help me forget about her. It's all her fault for following me around uni, giving me a wrong impression.
I really need help, i'm a first year student who has been friendzoned by a girl (who is in second year). We have been pretty close as we met in the worst society in the university. But i need to let it go for several reasons.
1. She keeps persuading me to keep coming to the society (its a christian society)
2. I think she is unstable but is under the influence of a cultish christianity mindset, she cried at my face when we were sharing our personal lives
3. Also whilst sharing her personal life, when discussing about christianity, she said she used to have sex with her boyfriend whilst being a born again christian (this is where i was put off)
4. I have depression and anxiety and in general, a social outcast and i now think she is contributing to my depression because i'm not sure if i can take the lovesickness well.
I need to forget about her, i don't know if she is still with her boyfriend or something but it has put me off. Also she is leaving like in two years wheras im here for 4 - it wouldn't work relationship rise.
I don't want to be mentally ill like what some TSR users do when posting 'the same thread about being in love with a girl'. Help me forget about her
. It's all her fault for following me around uni, giving me a wrong impression.hard question im asking it seems
Yes you are right. If her lifestyle (aka being heavily Christian) doesn't suit you then you can't get involved in it. And if she is making you feel down then that is not a healthy relationship to be in. So you need to forget about her. This means that you either cut contact with her or make it clear to her that this is a friendship, nothing more, if you can manage that and avoid being too personal with her anymore.
To help forget about her, the usual applies; either go out and meet new people, try to socialise (may help your depression) and possibly find a new girl you like the look of OR just keep busy with activities you enjoy whether that is sport or who knows. Essentially, she is having a negative impact on your wellbeing so you need to put your feelings aside and find someone new to love. Good luck, I know it is tough.
To help forget about her, the usual applies; either go out and meet new people, try to socialise (may help your depression) and possibly find a new girl you like the look of OR just keep busy with activities you enjoy whether that is sport or who knows. Essentially, she is having a negative impact on your wellbeing so you need to put your feelings aside and find someone new to love. Good luck, I know it is tough.
Original post by Sparster
Yes you are right. If her lifestyle (aka being heavily Christian) doesn't suit you then you can't get involved in it. And if she is making you feel down then that is not a healthy relationship to be in. So you need to forget about her. This means that you either cut contact with her or make it clear to her that this is a friendship, nothing more, if you can manage that and avoid being too personal with her anymore.
To help forget about her, the usual applies; either go out and meet new people, try to socialise (may help your depression) and possibly find a new girl you like the look of OR just keep busy with activities you enjoy whether that is sport or who knows. Essentially, she is having a negative impact on your wellbeing so you need to put your feelings aside and find someone new to love. Good luck, I know it is tough.
To help forget about her, the usual applies; either go out and meet new people, try to socialise (may help your depression) and possibly find a new girl you like the look of OR just keep busy with activities you enjoy whether that is sport or who knows. Essentially, she is having a negative impact on your wellbeing so you need to put your feelings aside and find someone new to love. Good luck, I know it is tough.
It is tough and painful. I'm a christian as well, but not in her way. She keeps texting me almost everyday like where a couple or something but after expressing our personal stuff, it just put me off completely that i nearly ended up crying.
It will be hard to cut off, she keeps saying, 'i'm trying to be close to you' but at the same time i'm lost by what she means by this.
Block her phone number.
If you can avoid it, don't go to the society. If you must, ignore her, or ask her to not speak to you anymore.
If you can avoid it, don't go to the society. If you must, ignore her, or ask her to not speak to you anymore.
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Find a new society, or a new church. Block and delete her number and disconnect all your social media accounts from hers (twitter, facebook, instagram, etc). And also take a break from social media altogether. Take some time to be yourself with yourself.
Last, but not least, find a new hobby.
Personally, I find the best way to do this is by taking a class of some kind that involves physical activity, with martial arts being top of the list.
Not only do you meet other people but seeing as you said you have anxiety it'll give you a platform to begin conversation with those around you as you're both there focusing on the same thing.
Last, but not least, find a new hobby.
Personally, I find the best way to do this is by taking a class of some kind that involves physical activity, with martial arts being top of the list.
Not only do you meet other people but seeing as you said you have anxiety it'll give you a platform to begin conversation with those around you as you're both there focusing on the same thing.
Original post by MBL854
Find a new society, or a new church. Block and delete her number and disconnect all your social media accounts from hers (twitter, facebook, instagram, etc). And also take a break from social media altogether. Take some time to be yourself with yourself.
Last, but not least, find a new hobby.
Personally, I find the best way to do this is by taking a class of some kind that involves physical activity, with martial arts being top of the list.
Not only do you meet other people but seeing as you said you have anxiety it'll give you a platform to begin conversation with those around you as you're both there focusing on the same thing.
Last, but not least, find a new hobby.
Personally, I find the best way to do this is by taking a class of some kind that involves physical activity, with martial arts being top of the list.
Not only do you meet other people but seeing as you said you have anxiety it'll give you a platform to begin conversation with those around you as you're both there focusing on the same thing.
Martial arts is what i wanted to do but then i became hangover and anxious so i didn't do it.
Interestingly, she hasn't spoken to me in 4 days (a new record). I think i upsetted her which is fine. It's now a start
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