What would you think of a 34yr old guy who'd never been in a serious relationship?

And let's say, the trouble isn't weight, looks, spots etc. Just has no conventional life, no real close friends, and no consistent job or career. Has had problems a lot. May be attractive.

And let's say, the trouble isn't weight, looks, spots etc. Just has no conventional life, no real close friends, and no consistent job or career. Has had problems a lot. May be attractive.

Honestly, I'd think what's wrong with him.

Huge red flags and people our age (I'm 31) who are serious about settling down wouldn't touch you with a barge pole.

Not a good bet to take when you want a stable life and a partner to make a baby with


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Honestly, I'd think what's wrong with him.

Huge red flags and people our age (I'm 31) who are serious about settling down wouldn't touch you with a barge pole.

Not a good bet to take when you want a stable life and a partner to make a baby with


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And let's say, the trouble isn't weight, looks, spots etc. Just has no conventional life, no real close friends, and no consistent job or career. Has had problems a lot. May be attractive.

The mere fact of never having been in a serious relationship by that age would raise questions, yes. The bits in bold are probably why, and would also be potentially offputting to future partners.

So you'd be willing to discriminate based on my past and not who I was at that moment in time?

If he was pretty 'normal' other than this, then I wouldn't see it as problematic.

If he was pretty imbalanced across the board, his lack of serious relationship wouldn't be the primary issue.

This is all hypothetical as I'm married, but some things in people's past shapes their present. Having no life, friends or career is your present as well, and suggestive of other issues. "Problems" in the past might be surmountable, depending on how you had responded and recovered from them.