Everyone just ignores me...

Friends come and go, more than it has ever been. People are more self-centered, friendships don't last, people aren't bothered to make the extra minutes of effort that could make them more content with life. And every December just seems like a chore, with people giving presents to their relatives and going to the big fancy family dinners only because their parents tell them to. That's modern life :/

To answer your question, don't change. You can't please everyone. But don't give up on being "out there" and trying new things when you get to uni (even if they seem completely irrelevant to what you're studying). Being interested in things makes you interesting, which in turn makes some people interested in you

How do you open a conversation?
Would you say you make fun conversations?
What about talking to boys

I understand about friends coming and going and all of that, but why has this girl put me on her profile picture if she doesn't want to be my friend? And why does the other girl constantly post pictures of us? :/ I wouldn't be bothered if they'd made it clear that they didn't want to be my friend, instead of posting things, because it hurts more when they ignore me.

Thanks, though. I just hope uni will actually be better!

Wait - are you a girl? Or homosexual?

If you have their phone numbers, give them a call. When you can hear the other person talk, the conversation flows much better. Texts and messages can be misinterpreted all too often. Make sure you don't bring Facebook up. Just the usual chat that people even of 10 years ago would have enjoyed.

You've just described my whole experience at university. People are friendly and enthusiastic all the time with me in actual conversation, but otherwise they pretend as if I don't exist.

I'm a girl...



Ah, I really can't talk on the phone. Like have really bad anxiety over it, which is why I never tend to do it. But if I did, I honestly don't think they would answer anyway. I called up one of them when I was drunk before, and she didn't answer.



I'm so glad that it's not only me that's going through this! How are you coping with it? Do you just not make an effort with them anymore? I hoped university would be a change from this

I understand about friends coming and going and all of that, but why has this girl put me on her profile picture if she doesn't want to be my friend? And why does the other girl constantly post pictures of us? :/ I wouldn't be bothered if they'd made it clear that they didn't want to be my friend, instead of posting things, because it hurts more when they ignore me.

Thanks, though. I just hope uni will actually be better!

I'm so glad that it's not only me that's going through this! How are you coping with it? Do you just not make an effort with them anymore? I hoped university would be a change from this

You're going to have to overcome this, since the telephone interview is a key component of the job application process. Do you receive phone calls from relatives at least? Or do they also text you? (You probably do have a job already but you'd prefer to be moving on to a better job once you get a degree and new skills?) Anyway, you never know unless you try. You can even mention to your friend(s) over the phone that you're being brave and trying to overcome a fear, they'll be really happy for you

Ive experienced a similar thing as well with a friend. Last summer we were great friends but then something suddenly changed. She started talking to the more popular people so me and another friend lost the friendship. Sadly friendship fades and once broken it is difficult to repair if not impossible. Sometimes it could be a miscommunication like I had with a friend(she thought I hated her) but I got some mutual friends to intervene and sort out, everything was fine.

I've had to change my friendship group once and I feel that I'll have to try my luck with the year below next year as I'm in my a-levels. I feel like I'm the only one that wants a friendship with someone else, I'm always the one that has to reach out, no one ever messages me and when I do it's often a lame reply or ignored completely. My social life is a mess too

As someone said, people are self-centered. Maybe this girl put you on her profile picture because she liked the way she looks on it (and she couldn't cut you out of the pic without screwing it?). As far as the other girl is concerned, I know a few like her. They post pictures all the time. Pictures of them everyday, pictures of everything they do. So if they hang out with you sometimes, you will be on those pictures. Why does she tag you? Probably because your friends will see those pics and can like them... She wants more likes, that's it.

I would be honest with them and tell them and see what they say about this. If they aren't nice, get rid of them... That's what I would do because I think it's better to have no friends than bad friends...

Friends come and go, more than it has ever been. People are more self-centered, friendships don't last, people aren't bothered to make the extra minutes of effort that could make them more content with life. And every December just seems like a chore, with people giving presents to their relatives and going to the big fancy family dinners only because their parents tell them to. That's modern life :/

To answer your question, don't change. You can't please everyone. But don't give up on being "out there" and trying new things when you get to uni (even if they seem completely irrelevant to what you're studying). Being interested in things makes you interesting, which in turn makes some people interested in you

Thanks for the post!

The photo isn't even recent, though. It's from 3 years ago, and before she changed it she had modern photos of herself on. She must have had to also browse through the pictures to find it, as she gets tagged in LOADS of things. You also can't even click on it, so she can't be doing it for the likes? I honestly don't understand. I do realise that you may be right about the other girl, though. She does post a lot of photos and quote pictures constantly.

Would I not seem desperate if I was honest with them in the message, though, especially considering that the profile picture girl has ignored 3 of my messages? Would I not come across as needy if I sent something else now? But I'm sure if I don't, then she'll never speak to me again.

Well, there might be other explanations but unfortunately I don't think I'm too far from reality to be honest.

It's up to you! Being honest is never a bad thing but if she has already ignored 3 of your messages then yes, you might seem a little desperate... But do you really care? I mean anyway, as you said you won't see her anymore if you don't do anything. And even if you do, there are chances you won't see her either. So what if she thinks you're desperate? You'll think she's an *******, and I'd rather be desperate than a *******.

If you want to send a message to tell them everything - do it. I wouldn't want it though. People who ignore you many times, who are ready not to see you again... They're just not worth it.