Sending nudes... or not?

I guess you're afraid of how he'd react, or that maybe he'd lose interest.

I also guess that he's head over heels and asks for them because he can't get the real thing just now.

If you're getting some back and you're happy.. then I guess all's fair in love and war.

Exactly. I would wish for this to stop, but then again I don't mind continuing either, considering how much he's helped me.

Thanks

Exactly. I would wish for this to stop, but then again I don't mind continuing either, considering how much he's helped me.

Thanks

Basically a year ago I started talking to this guy. He's really nice and I had the chance to get to know him better as our friendship grew stronger. We now talk every day and occasionally we sext - usually once every three weeks but it depends.

As I said, he's very nice and he's different compared to other guys I know, he's never been inappropriate and has never asked for nudes. I'm not going to go into detail but what I'm going to say is that he has helped me enormously on many things and to be honest his help was nearly vital.

Because of this, I decided to send him some nudes. I thought it was a one time thing but he kept asking for them (not in an insistent way). Even if he says I don't have to send him those photos if I don't want to, I keep thinking that stopping would somehow affect our relationship.

At times I think it's such a trivial thing that nothing would change, but an outsider's opinion would be appreciated.

(I don't know if this makes a difference, but we've never met. Although we plan on meeting up around March.)

Nudes shouldn't be a reward for helping you.

If you are comfortable with it and want to be sexual with him, fine. But if you're not comfortable for any reason, then you should stop, regardless of his thoughts.

Don't forget that as soon as they are out there, you lose control over them.

Meet him, anyway. If things go well, you can do things for real, instead of over text.

I think it's dangerous to start viewing the nude images as rewards for what he has done for you. If he is as lovely as he sounds, then he'll completely understand and respect how you feel. He ought not to expect these pictures.

Send them as a bit of fun as and when you feel comfortable and in that mood, but not because you feel pressured - even if that pressure is coming from yourself x

Once you click send you have no control over those pictures. You should've thought about it (unless you want to be known as a porn star)

I'd be wary about sending people on the internet nudes if you haven't met them before.

Once you click send you have no control over those pictures. You should've thought about it (unless you want to be known as a porn star)

I know that. And I took my time to get to know him before I sent those photos, he can be trusted and he won't share them

Not really if you don't show ur face.

Has he sent some back?

Yeah true


No he hasn't. I get the feeling he isn't comfortable sending photos of himself, and I understand that.

The thing is, this is the only way of showing him my gratitude that he's also going to appreciate. I should probably say I enjoy his reaction and it's a confidence booster, so I'm doing it for myself too, I think.

And yes, this is what we're planning to do. We'll see what happens next...

At times I think it's such a trivial thing that nothing would change, but an outsider's opinion would be appreciated.

(I don't know if this makes a difference, but we've never met. Although we plan on meeting up around March.)

I know that. And I took my time to get to know him before I sent those photos, he can be trusted and he won't share them