What a lot of people don't understand is that one can be for equal rights AND be a feminist, but you don't have to accept the label of feminist just because you're for equality, because it is a gender biased term (for good reason). A lot of people like to try to hog all the victim cards, saying "I'm for equality... and we can only achieve it by having all those over-privileged *gender 1*s fixing all of *gender 2*s problems that *gender 1* caused" then getting angry if the other gender mentions problems they have, and I've seen a lot of feminists outright demanding that anyone who's generally for equality must call themselves feminists... and that being a feminist means fixing all the world's worries by fixing problems women face and everything else will magically click into place/ women are the only ones with inequalities so they're the only ones worth paying attention to. It's a shame, but the pendulum never stops right at the bottom: People treat women like crap for years, then when we finally realize that's wrong, people think "Oh ok, so we need to treat them like Gods, right?" and suddenly women can cry sexism at the slightest thing while men are told to man up if they face sexism.
However, I'm hopeful that the day where the majority understand that both genders can have their problems acknowledged will come sooner rather than later. One actually can be a feminist (one that deals with women's issues) while still supporting male attempts for equality in areas where they're disadvantaged, and one can also be a 'meninist' or whatever the word would be while still supporting female attempts for equality in areas where they're disadvantaged, or you could be both if you have enough time on your hands. It's like how a fireman isn't also a policeman, but isn't going to demand the police stop doing their jobs because they consider fire to be a bigger problem. As far as I'm concerned, to be a feminist, you have to specifically do something towards women's rights rather than just think "yeah I like equality", but that's just down to labels, you can be for equality and not actively campaign etc.