My parents won't let me drink alcohol.
Okay I turn 18 in a few days, my friend and I have decided to go out for some drinks. Her parents are cool, where as mine are not :/
I'm from a slightly traditional indian family. But my dad drinks, it's just my mum wouldn't ever touch the stuff.
Now I don't know what to do
I really want to go, but if my mum (or even my dad) finds out, they will be furious I expect.
Sometimes my mum can be understanding, if I talk to her and say I will only have 1 drink she might be okay with it (but thats a 1 out of a million chance).
Should I tell her? or shall I go anyway and risk her finding out?
It's not fair!
I'm from a slightly traditional indian family. But my dad drinks, it's just my mum wouldn't ever touch the stuff.
Now I don't know what to do
I really want to go, but if my mum (or even my dad) finds out, they will be furious I expect.Sometimes my mum can be understanding, if I talk to her and say I will only have 1 drink she might be okay with it (but thats a 1 out of a million chance).
Should I tell her? or shall I go anyway and risk her finding out?
It's not fair!
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In a few days you'll be an adult. You can make your own decisions. Why do you care what the internet says?
Just tell your parents you are going somewhere like cinema and go for a drink. You may get caught and get shouted at, but I am sure they would not disown you, life isn't worth living if you do everything by the rules. Go and have fun, but be careful with the amount of alcohol you drink (you don't want to spend your 18th birthday in A & E)!
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Original post by Duncan2012
In a few days you'll be an adult. You can make your own decisions. Why do you care what the internet says?
No, I just need some advice
Original post by S-man10
Its not as hyped up as its said.
If you dint and never do there is nothing you are missing
If you dint and never do there is nothing you are missing
i mean you have a point, she's not missing much! but still as a young person she kind of is. have fun.
Original post by Anonymous
No, I just need some advice
Fine. Go for drinks. Happy now?
Original post by stop888
Your dad drinks so why is he being such a hypocrite for? If they find out just turn it onto your dad and say he drinks so why can't i.
standing up to an asian patriarch takes effort as hell
You don't need to TELL them you're going out to drink! Just go out and have fun, don't let them find out, not like they've attached a spy camera to your clothes (or have they? 
)
)Original post by 0123456543210
Just tell your parents you are going somewhere like cinema and go for a drink. You may get caught and get shouted at, but I am sure they would not disown you, life isn't worth living if you do everything by the rules. Go and have fun, but be careful with the amount of alcohol you drink (you don't want to spend your 18th birthday in A & E)!
You are right, telling her would be ridiculously stupid. Sometimes I suppose I get a bit too optimistic. Thanks, I will lie, I will say I'm going to my friends house or something.
Original post by 0123456543210
Just tell your parents you are going somewhere like cinema and go for a drink. You may get caught and get shouted at, but I am sure they would not disown you, life isn't worth living if you do everything by the rules. Go and have fun, but be careful with the amount of alcohol you drink (you don't want to spend your 18th birthday in A & E)!
The cinema trick served me well from 16 till i was legal. I would even come home plastered and they didnt even know
Original post by Mr.Malice
standing up to an asian patriarch takes effort as hell
You can't win. His parents won't find out anyway, unless they've got people spying on him secretly
Original post by stop888
Your dad drinks so why is he being such a hypocrite for? If they find out just turn it onto your dad and say he drinks so why can't i.
I know, it's hypocritical. I hate it. But my mum thinks drinking is only for the men in the family, that it's sinful to even touch it...
an no, I don't get it either
Original post by Mr.Malice
standing up to an asian patriarch takes effort as hell
and fails most of the time...
Original post by stop888
You can't win. His parents won't find out anyway, unless they've got people spying on him secretly
I'm a girl
which makes it a bit worse for them I suppose.Original post by A level sufferer
The cinema trick served me well from 16 till i was legal. I would even come home plastered and they didnt even know
How did you hide it?
I mean I live in my room anyway, so I will probably just go straight upstairs.
Original post by Anonymous
I know, it's hypocritical. I hate it. But my mum thinks drinking is only for the men in the family, that it's sinful to even touch it...
an no, I don't get it either
and fails most of the time...
an no, I don't get it either
and fails most of the time...
That double standard
What religion are you anyway?Original post by A level sufferer
The cinema trick served me well from 16 till i was legal. I would even come home plastered and they didnt even know
the excuses I gave when i was a teen. i'd come home spinning n reeking but got nooo questions.Original post by A level sufferer
The cinema trick served me well from 16 till i was legal. I would even come home plastered and they didnt even know
I remember how once I figured that my parents would let me to spend a night at a friend's house as long as it was a close friend and given that he/she had a birthday (giving me a chance to get mortal at night), I had been at 'birthday parties' like 3 times in a week.
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