I'm 18 but parents are still too strict?NEED ADVICE

See we actually stayed lowkey all through the first year, and recently i told my parents. yeah luckily he understands :' haha, i was applying for aldi last night!

That can backfire badly (talking from experience)





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that's sweet of him
ah cool! see you got this dont worry
as long as your dependent on your parents you cant afford to piss them off! :/

but i need my freedom mannn ;__; its not even like im failing my subjects or doing drugs or any of that stuff! I understand the whole fear of pregnancies - ive got that covered as im on the implant. but they dont know that or the fact im active :///

you're gonna hate me, but im in the same boat and ive come to a realisation that you're just gonna wait till youre older to do what you want

yeah it worked for us last year, but now my dad is watching my every move its ridiculous

oh don't tell them that nope!!!!
yeah trust me i understand you and the restrictions but you gotta do it to get your freedom
if you dont tell them you've 'broken up' and focus on your work you may never get that freedom!
do it for you and for your bf and once your out of their house and into yours you can do as you please and no one can tell you otherwise - true freedom!!
but you gotta work hard okay? you can do it

My parents eventually found out. Hard to keep a secret when you live with parents.

I don't really have any advice (apart from go to uni or move out) but I was in your situation a while ago and it somehow worked out

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Out of interest , what race are you and what race is your bf?

I agree with the above posters in that you will have to wait until you are older and financially independent. Unfortunately, it is only then you can do what you want and date who you want.

Perhaps try to ask why your parents specifically don't like this boy. Do they really know enough about him in order to pass a negative (or positive) judgement? Try to convince them to meet him in order for you both to prove he is a good partner.

Perhaps try to ask why your parents specifically don't like this boy. Do they really know enough about him in order to pass a negative (or positive) judgement? Try to convince them to meet him in order for you both to prove he is a good partner.

i may consider uni but i'll have to wait till next year and im not sure if i can handle that bc of my anxiety issues. is moving out a bit extreme or reasonable???

Try retail like Primark maybe they usually have high staff turnover. Save as much as you can while working so you won't be financially dependent on them then leave.

sigh, i shall try it - thanks for your help! ^_^ but how do i manage the threats of being physically hurt and stuff? it gets me so panicked it can last for days

This could go horrifically wrong especially as OP's parents went the opposite way of what she's expecting them to do



No it's not extreme. But you need money to do that or move in with your partner if he can support you while looking for work (latter option proceed with caution)

Sadly until you are not under your parents control then your life is not your own

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well remember you can always talk to the police if you think they're actually gonna hurt you
talk about it with your teachers too, now that you're 18 i don't think they'd have to report everything (not sure though don't quote me on this) and they'll treat you like an adult and give you some advice, cut you some slack with the work and hopefully make things easier for you to deal with
go to the doctors for your panic attacks as well and talk to them about this too they'll be able to help with that and maybe refer you to a professional, again it's all confidential

but remember if they do try to hurt you dont be afraid to call 999

good luck

I'm black and my boyfriend is white. they met him last year and didnt like him - especially my dad. My boyfriend lives on his own due to having a rough upbring with his dad. My dad doesnt like him because he dated a girl from a "broken home" who was also white and it didnt end well + he experienced racism from her relatives.

My boyfriend and I accept our differences and are totally fine. i met his parents a few weeks ago and they said i can sleep over whenever and we get along very well (my parents dont know that i met his parents)

Hey guysss,
I turned 18 in december but my parents are still ridiculously strict..if anythings, theyre worse. Recently I thought it was a good idea to come clean to my parents that I have a boyfriend (who is of another race) to seem more "mature". Now recently, my dad has been threatening to hurt me physically due to me having anxiety attacks because of HIM saying all of these deluded things saying how i skip college/lessons to see my boyrfriend etc, I'm no longer allowed to hang out with friends in and out of college unless i split up with him, and I'm not allowed to do coursework after college (despite me having exams coming up and they are aware of me being unable to concentrate in the house due to the constant tension and anxiety I have). Literally, they are more concerned with the fact that I'm dating a guy they don't like than the fact my anxiety has worsened and I cant concentrate at home.

Any advice please? u_u (sorry if this was long)

I believe your dad may have a bitter attitude towards all white people in "broken homes" due to his horrible experiences in the past with his ex white gf. You need to try to reason with your dad if this is the case. Just because the white girl he dated had a broken home and had racist relatives does not mean you should be cut off from dating white people from that background in general.

My gf is in a very similar situation to you. She is Indian and I am black. I am not from a broken home or anything like that. Her parents are just plain racist smh.

i was suggested that but i dont want to end up giving my dad a criminal record (the lady said its classed as domestic abuse etc). I'll talk to the teachers and my doctor too. thanks so much for your help ^_^

yeah i understand he's looking out for me,but its too extreme. not everyone from the same background is the same. Ive tried explaining this to him but he refuses to listen and compromise. it gets to the point where he'll start talking about my boyfriend to me whilst arguing and making all of these rude remarks