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Depressed about my weight

I think I'm depressed about my weight. I'm normally a bubbly person but over the last couple of months I'm so upset and I don't really have a reason other than I hate the way I look and *(excuse the pun!) it quite literally weighs me down.

I'm around 5'10 and have reached 12 7lb, my heaviest weight. I'm not trying to say this is overweight as I'm aware everyone is different, I just know I'm unhappy being this weight.

Many people tell me I'm not 'fat' but it's obvious I have put on weight and it really bothers me. The more annoying thing is I know I'm to blame and it's my life choices that have got me here.
I don't eat excessive amounts of food and I'm not that keen on meat so I tend to stick to a mainly vegetarian diet but I do have a very sweet tooth. In the past year I either over eat or have periods where I eat junk daily with the mentality 'diet starts Monday' which leads to a week and then a month of eating rubbish or I'll do a cleanse and detox and cut everything out.

I'm aware of how horrible it makes me feel but I don't seem to change and I don't know what to do as I'm going away travelling very soon. I don't want to spend the whole trip, which I've worked hard to save for, worried and self conscious about my weight.
I tried to think why have I changed within a year from enjoying treats but maintaining a balanced diet to the diet and mentality I currently have and I can only narrow it down to leaving school, attending and then dropping out of university. Family were totally understanding but I felt like a failure and looking back while everyone was in uni or getting on with their lives I began to eat more and more. I've always had a negative view on my body but back in school when I was just free, happy and wasn't worried I was a comfortable size 8/10 and around 10 st although I still felt like the 'big girl' I realise now I was happier. I maintained a balanced diet which I yearn to get back into and change myself once and for all this time.

I know just 'move more and eat less' is the answer but in my case it's just not as easy to do that.

Any advice or others experience on how to get out of this negative mindset would be really appreciated :smile:
Original post by katef895
I think I'm depressed about my weight. I'm normally a bubbly person but over the last couple of months I'm so upset and I don't really have a reason other than I hate the way I look and *(excuse the pun!) it quite literally weighs me down.

I'm around 5'10 and have reached 12 7lb, my heaviest weight. I'm not trying to say this is overweight as I'm aware everyone is different, I just know I'm unhappy being this weight.

Many people tell me I'm not 'fat' but it's obvious I have put on weight and it really bothers me. The more annoying thing is I know I'm to blame and it's my life choices that have got me here.
I don't eat excessive amounts of food and I'm not that keen on meat so I tend to stick to a mainly vegetarian diet but I do have a very sweet tooth. In the past year I either over eat or have periods where I eat junk daily with the mentality 'diet starts Monday' which leads to a week and then a month of eating rubbish or I'll do a cleanse and detox and cut everything out.

I'm aware of how horrible it makes me feel but I don't seem to change and I don't know what to do as I'm going away travelling very soon. I don't want to spend the whole trip, which I've worked hard to save for, worried and self conscious about my weight.
I tried to think why have I changed within a year from enjoying treats but maintaining a balanced diet to the diet and mentality I currently have and I can only narrow it down to leaving school, attending and then dropping out of university. Family were totally understanding but I felt like a failure and looking back while everyone was in uni or getting on with their lives I began to eat more and more. I've always had a negative view on my body but back in school when I was just free, happy and wasn't worried I was a comfortable size 8/10 and around 10 st although I still felt like the 'big girl' I realise now I was happier. I maintained a balanced diet which I yearn to get back into and change myself once and for all this time.

I know just 'move more and eat less' is the answer but in my case it's just not as easy to do that.

Any advice or others experience on how to get out of this negative mindset would be really appreciated :smile:


Just remember who you are doing it for and who will benefit, yourself. As difficult as it is to motivate yourself, if this is deep down what you really want then you need to remind yourself of that everyday, every time you're about to eat something unhealthy, ask yourself if you think it's worth it. I'd also say that while diets can have a positive impact, it's not always a great idea to try to suddenly go cold turkey with the food you love. Just cutting down on certain thinks, adding more raw fruit and veg into your diet and walking instead of driving or taking the bus can do wonders :smile: Also, don't pressure yourself to be a certain weight by a certain time, maybe set yourself a goal of changing your lifestyle for one month and focus on the overall results, I'm sure you'll be able to do it, good luck! :biggrin:
Make a dedication not to buy bad stuff. Put the money that you would've spent on baddies into a piggy bank and save it. Then once a month buy some shoes or a DVD, something like that. You could even look around and pick the item in advance before purchasing it and set the photo as a background on your phone or something. You'd be surprised how quickly the money accumulates.

Alternatively you could swap them for healthier options, snack bars > chocolate bars, fruit > crisps etc. It's not easy but giving yourself an incentive will help. Tracking what you eat with an app or something?
Original post by katef895
I think I'm depressed about my weight. I'm normally a bubbly person but over the last couple of months I'm so upset and I don't really have a reason other than I hate the way I look and *(excuse the pun!) it quite literally weighs me down.

I'm around 5'10 and have reached 12 7lb, my heaviest weight. I'm not trying to say this is overweight as I'm aware everyone is different, I just know I'm unhappy being this weight.

Many people tell me I'm not 'fat' but it's obvious I have put on weight and it really bothers me. The more annoying thing is I know I'm to blame and it's my life choices that have got me here.
I don't eat excessive amounts of food and I'm not that keen on meat so I tend to stick to a mainly vegetarian diet but I do have a very sweet tooth. In the past year I either over eat or have periods where I eat junk daily with the mentality 'diet starts Monday' which leads to a week and then a month of eating rubbish or I'll do a cleanse and detox and cut everything out.

I'm aware of how horrible it makes me feel but I don't seem to change and I don't know what to do as I'm going away travelling very soon. I don't want to spend the whole trip, which I've worked hard to save for, worried and self conscious about my weight.
I tried to think why have I changed within a year from enjoying treats but maintaining a balanced diet to the diet and mentality I currently have and I can only narrow it down to leaving school, attending and then dropping out of university. Family were totally understanding but I felt like a failure and looking back while everyone was in uni or getting on with their lives I began to eat more and more. I've always had a negative view on my body but back in school when I was just free, happy and wasn't worried I was a comfortable size 8/10 and around 10 st although I still felt like the 'big girl' I realise now I was happier. I maintained a balanced diet which I yearn to get back into and change myself once and for all this time.

I know just 'move more and eat less' is the answer but in my case it's just not as easy to do that.

Any advice or others experience on how to get out of this negative mindset would be really appreciated :smile:


Pm me? You sound cute x

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You've got two choices:

a) Continue feeling sorry for yourself, do nothing to help yourself
b) Make a change - what's the worst that can happen?

That's how you've gotta look at it. The first choice is the choice of a person who gets out of shape and hates their body. I gather you don't want that.
A clear cut case of comfort eating. You'll need to find a friend, or make a friend who will help you to get back to being happy.

As far as your sweet tooth is concerned you need to get yourself copies of "I Quit Sugar" and "I Quit Sugar for Life" by Sarah Wilson @ £14.99 each.

The reason Weight Watchers is successful is not because of the diet, the women follow, but the friendships they develop. Supporting each other is why they lose weight. Therefore, find someone who you can relate to and work with in your fight to getting back to your normality.

Diets have been proved not to work, only a change in lifestyle and eating habits effects weight loss/control. You should watch this if it is still available http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b038913v

All four videos are available here https://youtu.be/kYVoYwU1-kk?list=PL8FF7F55960DFD56E

The diet industry only exists to make money, not to help men or women to lose weight. If they did do that they would go out of business.

Get a Fitbit or similar health and fitness tracker, with heart monitoring facility as well. It'll motivate you to lose weight and get fit. These on-line fitness communities help each other stay motivated, and spur each other onto their next level of fitness/ weight loss. This would be ideal for your scheduled travel plans.

If going to uni was not for you, it doesn't matter you can still continue your education and obtain qualification at your own pace. I suggest you investigate this https://www.vision2learn.net/course/free/119/nutrition-and-health-level-2 It's a free on-line course that is a nationally accredited qualification. It could well fit into your travel plans.

Message me if you need further advice or help.

Hope this helps you.
Getting fit is a mental thing, you have to really want it first and foremost. You aren't ready.
Reply 7
I hope you realise that you probably only need to lose about 1 -2 stone. I'm sure you can do it. Just eat healthier and less, and exercise a lot more. Make a mood board to encourage & motivate yourself
I suggest you throw out the weighing scale and start lifting heavy objects. Change your fat into muscle and the numbers on the scale won't mean a thing.
You'll save a lot of money just by having slightly less food every day :smile:
I know how it feels to hate the way you look. :frown:
Try writing yourself out a meal plan, and preparing food in advance so your not looking through the cupboards and being tempted by naughty food. Stop buying crisps and chocolate, if its not there to eat it will be much easier to stay away from it.
Once you get yourself into a little routine and start to see a change you will be surprised how addictive it can be.
You don't need to cut things out completely, allow yourself one cheat meal a week to keep cravings away.
Start exercising more, HIIT is great for losing weight, if your not comfortable going to the gym you can find some workouts on youtube that you can workout along with and then eventually build yourself up to going to the gym where you can weight train in order to build muscle and tone up. Good luck!
Isn't 127 a good weight for your height? I'm much shorter and my highest was 117lbs and I was well within a healthy weight, although I did freak out.

The best way to make progress is to accept yourself as you are right now, but know that it's not permanent it's just a step in your journey. You probably won't reach your goals if you bully yourself into them, it's a sure fire way to lose control, believe me! Be kind to yourself and enjoy the journey and the lifestyle... I think that is the best way to success. I'm still working on it myself though :h:
Ok your BMI is fine so really if you are going to lose weight you have scope to lose1-2 stone within your BMI range.

Its pretty straightforward, just take a deep breath and start to plan what you need to do.

1. Mental health. Go and see your Dr to make them aware. You need to be your own friend so you can become focused and support yourself through the task. Ine good thing is that as you lose weight, eat better and become fitter, then its a really good tonic for dealing with depression. You cna do it plenty of people do, so its not impossible.

2. Keep your targets small, achievable and focus on what you need to do. Its all about consistent deficit. Weigh your food and eat a balanced diet, then you lose weight. It has to be consistent and realistic though. No good starting , bingeing, restarting , giving up. Slow and steady. One of the other reasons people fail is becayse they are unrealistic. 1lb a week is ok, it goes quicker at the beginning than the end. In any event be patient. That's 3-5 months to lose a stone.

3. Exercise: cardio cam help you feel less out of breath and have more energy. the real difference is i'd incorproate some resistance training as well, weights are a great way of making your diet more effective by retaining muscle and increasing the ratio of fat loss. More muscle will help you be stronger and look leaner or more shapely. You might also wnat to do some classes, stick at them and you can socialise.

4. Take it one week and one day at a time. Progress over time will give you confidence its working, although dont get hung up on any week, its loss over time you wnat. Keep a record of exercise and youll see yourself become faster and stronger.

5. Go and open yourself a myfitnesspal account, get some friends and they will support you. Some people are up at 300lbs plus, but they lose the weight and get fit by following the above. You cna do it, but it consists of usp and downs, just have more good days than bad.

6. Finally you cna have treats you just cant have the same amounts because its calories. Keep in mind an hours cardio will probably burn you a couple of mars bars, that's all. Walking, swimming, any movement if you wont gym are all good starts. get some kitchen scales.

Good luck an have a great trip.
Reply 13
It sounds like you just lack a little bit of that extra motivation needed to start making changes to your lifestyle. The hardest part for me is changing the way I eat, I also love sweets. But I started following fitness blogs and boards on pinterest for fitness tips and recipes. I really love the Beachbody blog. There's so many tips and great recipes on there and motivational stories as well. For your sweet tooth I suggest switching your sweets to smoothies. They are healthy and still taste great! And there's so many different ways to make them. One more thing, when it comes to losing weight, make sure you have patience! Good luck :smile:
Being depressed about your weight won't solve the problem. Face it and find solution. Do exercise, eat healthy and have enough sleep. Drink a lot of water.
I'm depressed too but embracing a healthy, ethical (vegan) lifestyle has helped so much. It tackles you physical state as well as your mental state. If you go vegan you're likely to have a naturally healthier diet therefore losing weight will come naturally if exercise is not something that is an option to you.
Original post by travelfairy12354
I think I'm depressed about my weight. I'm normally a bubbly person but over the last couple of months I'm so upset and I don't really have a reason other than I hate the way I look and *(excuse the pun!) it quite literally weighs me down.

I'm around 5'10 and have reached 12 7lb, my heaviest weight. I'm not trying to say this is overweight as I'm aware everyone is different, I just know I'm unhappy being this weight.

Many people tell me I'm not 'fat' but it's obvious I have put on weight and it really bothers me. The more annoying thing is I know I'm to blame and it's my life choices that have got me here.
I don't eat excessive amounts of food and I'm not that keen on meat so I tend to stick to a mainly vegetarian diet but I do have a very sweet tooth. In the past year I either over eat or have periods where I eat junk daily with the mentality 'diet starts Monday' which leads to a week and then a month of eating rubbish or I'll do a cleanse and detox and cut everything out.

I'm aware of how horrible it makes me feel but I don't seem to change and I don't know what to do as I'm going away travelling very soon. I don't want to spend the whole trip, which I've worked hard to save for, worried and self conscious about my weight.
I tried to think why have I changed within a year from enjoying treats but maintaining a balanced diet to the diet and mentality I currently have and I can only narrow it down to leaving school, attending and then dropping out of university. Family were totally understanding but I felt like a failure and looking back while everyone was in uni or getting on with their lives I began to eat more and more. I've always had a negative view on my body but back in school when I was just free, happy and wasn't worried I was a comfortable size 8/10 and around 10 st although I still felt like the 'big girl' I realise now I was happier. I maintained a balanced diet which I yearn to get back into and change myself once and for all this time.

I know just 'move more and eat less' is the answer but in my case it's just not as easy to do that.

Any advice or others experience on how to get out of this negative mindset would be really appreciated :smile:


Wow i actually had to stop and think was it me who posted this!! I am in the exact same situation i have always been slim and for the last 6 months or so i have gained a crazy amount of weight (like you said not fat just bigger than we know ourselves to be) and i believe it is also due to me dropping out of uni (among other major things that happened in my life last year) and i have decided enough is enough! What ive been doing is 1. i follow TheBodyCoach on Instagram and i also have his book which i found really interesting as im clueless when it comes to food and exercise 2. ive started drinking primarily water and i also love water with lemon or lime squeezed into it (for a healthy fizzy drink i suggest soda water with freshly squeezed lime also) 3. im experimenting alot with new foods and stuff and different kinds of hot drinks e.g. cinnamon and honey with hot water rather than lattes or cappuccinos (i looove coffee) 4. i follow fitness people on instagram and watch youtube videos of transformations and stuff to stay motivated 5. this one might sound strange but it is actually pretty good, ive been doing a sort of hypnosis thing from a guy on youtube (heres the link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZKQfgwVD1g) and i think its motivating but even if it doesnt really work its still really relaxing and helps me clear my mind! Sorry for such a long answer but i hope some if not all of it helps you! Good luck im so determined to get back to feeling like me again i hope you get there too :smile:

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