Should i regret losing my virginity? :/ confused. please read... pleaseeee help me...

Him lasting 2 mins is him being purely selfish and it's unfair

YHim lasting 2 mins is him being purely selfish and it's unfair to you.

Um it could have also been his first time as well which is understandable why he can't last too long but to say that its him being selfish and unfair is just plain stupidity.

Do you know how hard it is to not bust? Especially when you really love your partner...its something that you learn to surpress through time but even then its still not easy.

Shut it, muppet. This is why people do not take relationship advice from the internet. What a bonkers concept. The guy probably is nervous, used to jacking his penis for 40 seconds in front of the PC before popping (since masturbating for guys is basically racing to the finale) and so needs to practice.

OP. First, he probably also feels insecure about finishing early and/or being bad in bed, especially if he's inexperienced. Buy a karma sutra: read/explore/learn.
More importantly, Take a little control. Communicate your wants. The sex might be crap but it sounds like you're expecting him to just be magical all by himself. Stop being so lazy and tell him. Slow it down yourself. You can make this sexy "I don't want you to cum yet. I'm not done with you *bite lip*"

First couple of times are generally pretty **** for girls unless they have an experienced and thoughtful guy with them but most have to learn to learn with their partners. Don't be put off sex because you're both noobs.

Wanting your first few times to be this unicorn experience of soul bonding is pretty naive. It's difficult enough knowing exactly how to connect with your partner on that level when you're experienced, never mind when working out the mechanics for the first time.

Um it could have also been his first time as well which is understandable why he can't last too long but to say that its him being selfish and unfair is just plain stupidity.

Do you know how hard it is to not bust? Especially when you really love your partner...its something that you learn to surpress through time but even then its still not easy.

Excusseeee me.... I'm going off the info OP gave us, she never said that he was a Virgin, simmer down gawd.

And i can understand if it's his first second third time and he can't help it.... Otherwise not cool.

No you didn't. While she did not state he was a virgin, she never said he wasn't either. You assumed he was being selfish right off the bat. You didn't just go off what the OP said at all: You also made your own little judgments.

In the 'otherwise' scenario, we still have no idea to know whether he is 'just being selfish.' To think so is pretty naive. Maybe you don't talk to a lot of guys about this but generally speaking women are NOT very good soundboards for whether something is going well in bed. Like the OP they kinda just take it as 'crap' sex, or maybe they assume 'selfish' like you, without ever giving feedback. What's the guy supposed to do? Nobody told him any different and that 2 minutes was great for him! It's so essential that girls take a little responsibility here if they are no enjoying themselves.

Damn I triggered a 1 min man huh

Buy some sex books from Waterstones and study the art together.

Nice try at an ad hom attack. I just don't take well to people who go around telling people that their partners are being selfish or making bad assumptions that could ultimately ruin relationships without good basis. Of course, you realise this else you'd have argued my (valid) points.

But either way, even if I were a 1 minute man, who do you think you are? I mean, if I were, then you're being a bitch for what, exactly? Because I called you out for possibly have a bad impact on a relationship? I won't put up with your **** just because you're a girl and because you try to attack me. It's awful.

I'm perfectly secure about my sexuality and performance but lots of guys aren't and so people like you who use it as an attack infuriate me. Shameful.

What on earth are you going on about? Aren't you the one who called me a muffet ( whatever that means)

and started with the bitchyness? I already said that if it's his first time then I can understand. he got to bust his nut over and over again, they've had sex multiple times by the sounds of it.

Would you like me to cry him a river and feel bad for him?

A muppet. British word for 'silly', basically. Watch The Muppet Show. I didn't really insult you in the first interaction and I'll consider this a cultural misunderstanding.



You did say 'if it was his first time' AFTER I'd already called you out. I can go back and quote each comment but looking back it's clear to anybody reading that your first bit of advice was 'he lasted less than 2 minutes? clearly selfish'. Once I made a point of stating otherwise, you said 'if not virgin, then selfish' which ALSO isn't the case. They may have had sex multiple times but you have no idea why he's cumming early. You did give one bit of good advice: Communicate.


No. Tbh, I don't care how you feel. I want you to start not handing out bad advice when you don't know what's going on. There's certainly more than one explanation that isn't 'he's a selfish jerk' and these should be explored beforehand.

My advice is not bad, as a matter of fact I stated something that you ALSO stated. And my personal opinion shouldn't affect someone else's relationship, you'd be stupid to.

What can his excuse be for busting in a short amount of time after having sex multiple times?

And I believe a man who busts in two mins is being selfish to his girlfriends needs.

I gave you credit for saying "Communicate." That's the good advice you gave. Ironically, even so, your advice was to communicate her 'good spots' and missed the issue.

Stop backtracking. If you truly believed that your advice doesn't matter to their relationship then why give any? Thats a ******** argument to try to climb your way out of the hole you're in.



Goodness, that really is naive. Premature ejaculation has lots of potential causes. Go use google. It can inform you much better than I.


? Seriously, go away. That doesn't even make sense. It's not like we have some magic ability to hold out for 16 hour marathons if we want just because girlfriends want us to Further, and this was my issue, he tried oral, according to the OP, but she didn't enjoy it. If he did this either before or after sex, there's no way to say he didn't try to fulfil her needs. What it does tell us is that he failed miserably and needs to learn.

I think I'm done talking to you. In all, I'm seriously unimpressed that somebody who is so uninformed and quick to judge would go around giving advice and then when that ill advice is contended resorts to insults before then trying to say "well, people shouldn't be listening to it anyway." Very good mental gymnastics but ultimately deviously trying to argue your way out of a situation you're still to admit you were wrong in. Hopefully others on the thread won't be affected by your nonsense.

You lost your virginity, no point in feeling regret what's done is done.

I think you should have a talk with him. Him lasting 2 mins is him being purely selfish and it's unfair to you. Tell him what you like, you know your body best ,tell him your " spots" and teach him what to do and how to work it, communicate.