OK, this is going to be a little long and if you don’t want to read it all I can understand. I’m pretty confused right now, like really. It’s probably best to give a little bit of background. I’m a fresher at university. For the last 5/6 years I haven’t really had many close friends (mix of my own doing and being quite frankly backstabbed). It was also during this time I started to question my sexuality.
Fast forward in history and I did a little experimenting with guys, but this didn’t clear up any doubts 100%. This has continued at uni, but the thing is I’ve never slept with a girl. Heck, it’s pretty rare that I actually talk to girls (not shy, just never made an effort really). At one point in my life I was pretty sure that I was gay, having told a few select people already. Now I’m having doubts about whether or not I am. I can’t remember what it was but I saw something about people having kids or something on those lines and it kind of hit a nerve. Up until now I didn’t want children, now I kind of do with a girl and I kind of want to just be with a girl I guess. Maybe this could also be from the fact that pretty much all my friends are in relationships or the lack of actual experience?
But then here’s the confusing part, I could understand if I’d had enough of messing about with guys but the fact is I do like it, and have been messing around since starting uni. For the first time in years I feel like I’ve actually got proper friends again, which I know sounds strange. And one in particular has been on my mind for a while now, even the fact of going away over vacations (in particular summer) makes me pretty upset at the thought of not seeing him. If I’m just sitting around there’s a chance he’ll be involved in my thoughts somewhere, sometimes even in dreams. This has made me question whether or not I actually love him/am gay, but then the other half of me thinks that I’m just overly attached because it’s been so long or that maybe we’re just close? (For the record, I know he’s not gay - in a longggg relationship).
So really I suppose this is what it comes down to, I’m lost in who I really am. To those who truly know they are gay - do you ever doubt your sexuality or have periods of doubt? I think this could have been shorter but I felt like I needed to get this off my chest and give the actual context of my question.