Can't get a girlfriend

Sometimes on the street or in a cafe like costa or something lol. Im nearly always in the hospital so don't go out much, but i asked a ward pharmacist out the other day. Lool it went incredibly bad, with a very clear rejection. I think the awkwardness is too much for me to ask out anyone at work from now on...

I don't think your situation is that unusual AT ALL. 26 is certainly not to old to be getting started among the people I usually hang out with. We clearly move in the same circles.

As for tinder, my ex-colleague is getting married to someone she met on tinder last year. I highly doubt that ALL girls on Tinder want a one night stand (pretty unlikely, lets be honest). Make it clear you want something long-term and you'll have floods of interest.

The reason I asked about the parents is that even if they don't lock you in a cage at night, they may have a subconscious influence on your choices. I know mine do. Whenever I do something I know my mum wouldn't approve of, I uncannily see her stern expression in my minds eye (and carry on anyway). It can be off-putting and stop you approaching people at all. Maybe they pushed the whole medic and career thing and enforced on you the view that anything non-study related is a distraction and will lead to your downfall? Do you live at home. Is there anywhere you could take a girl that you met? Is that what's stopping you?

I think work is a good place to start. Especially in a busy career where you don't have loads of time to have a life outside of it.

My last workplace was similar in terms of long work hours, high stress etc. As a result, the place was almost incestous. Everyone ended up pairing off since they new and accepted they wouldn't meet someone outside of work.

I think the key is to not approach a stranger out of the blue. Build a casual relationship, get to know them, eventually go for coffee, pizza etc.

I think ill give tinder a go then, but it just never appealed to me coz it just wasn't a romantic way of finding someone. I don't think i would get a thrill or buzz by going out with someone from tinder but i guess beggars can't be choosers lol

Yh i see what you mean about the parents issue. I have my own place but my mum lives with me. The reason is that she doesn't really have anywhere else to live and you can't exactly tell your mother to leave. She is arab and i guess would be very uneasy with me bringing a girl home for anything more than JUST dinner. I guess i hadn't really thought of that...

Yh but ur a girl (i think) and its FAR easier for girls to have a relationship than guys. Ive already been rejected twice from asking out someone at work and i don't think i could bare to look at them again. If i ask out anyone else, and get rejected (which, in all honesty, is the more likely answer) things will be mega awkward at work, and i just couldn't work like that.

Kind of hard for a (straight) girl to have a relationship without a guy ! Kind of a one to one correspondence there.

What I meant is: give up the asking out, its abrupt and formal. Just get to know people you like and let things move naturally.

I think ill give tinder a go then, but it just never appealed to me coz it just wasn't a romantic way of finding someone. I don't think i would get a thrill or buzz by going out with someone from tinder but i guess beggars can't be choosers lol

Yh i see what you mean about the parents issue. I have my own place but my mum lives with me. The reason is that she doesn't really have anywhere else to live and you can't exactly tell your mother to leave. She is arab and i guess would be very uneasy with me bringing a girl home for anything more than JUST dinner. I guess i hadn't really thought of that...

You seem to be quite inexperienced with girls so you probably dilly dally in your chats. Get a system and stick to it, number close within first/second irl chat or within 5-10 messages for tinder.

Once your approach is to a normal standard you need to fix logistics. You won't get anywhere with your mom around guaranteed. I understand she might not feel good about it but she's living in your house so it is irrelevant. Surely you can ask her to make herself scarce for the odd night when need be.

Show em how much you earn. You'll have em waiting in a line. Doesn't work with all of em though so just be cautious.

i DONT want a one night stand, or sex on the first date or anything. I want a girlfriend and just someone to chill with. Sex and stuff comes later and the logistics can be worked out at the time. But do you think all girls would want to have sex asap after first/ second date? I was thinking maybe a month or two done the line...