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    Basically I don't understand certain people and if you have some insight to what is going on with them, that would be great.

    I'm in Uni and I was in a group with a guy and a girl who I got on okay with, however I realised that they were letting me do most of the work and I ended up sorting out most of the paper work for filming.

    On the filming I was meant to be the director and I had never been in that role before and had always done what I was told and done what people wanted. So when I wanted a certain shot the girl I worked with out right refused and we had a big argument about it as I decided for once I wasn't going to budge.

    And then after that we were meant to be doing a pitch. And she kept on refusing to show me the basic outline of the presentation even though it was two days before we were meant to be ready. So I decided to do my own presentation as it would ease my worries and we could share ideas and things but she then blow up on me. Calling me controlling, not liking my attitude, threatoning to kick me out of the group if I did the presentation and sounded incredible rude. I excused myself from her group after as I believed I could not work with her.

    Though some backstory before this I had worked with her before and did a documentary with her for my course and yet in the production she constantly walked ahead of our group even though we had the equitment and she shouted at us if she thought we were slow when we were being as quick as we could. Even shouting at us in front of people we were meant to be interviewing making them uncomfortile. And she is telling me I'm controlling and I have an attitude?

    I just do not understand her and I actaully wish I did. Just so I know more about how to deal with her if I have to work with her in the future (Despite not wanting to) If you know people like her and understand what on earth is going on in their head, would help me?

    It's called narcissistic entitlement - she wants what she wants and feels she deserves it. She probably views you the same way. Get used to it, work places are full of people like that: they will take as much as they can, claim full credit regardless of the contributions of others, and lock you out when it suits them and they can.
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