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Don't think my family is happy about me moving out...

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    I'm about to move out to be with my partner. Albeit, I'm moving into a new job too, which isn't ideal or my preferred longer term ambition.

    I graduated this year with my degree, and although I've applied for work in my field I've been unsuccessful. So, wanting to be with my partner and all, and been long distance, I decided to take the first job I could.

    Trouble is, I heard from a particular colleague at my workplace that my family weren't exactly "happy about me going". Whether its because of my job situation or in general. Although, said colleague isn't to be trusted as he lies a lot.

    Part of me feels its true, as I know my mum has tried to sway me from going and getting this particular job, as she feels its sort of beneath me as I have a degree.

    To me, I'd rather take any job- to be with my partner, and then, later apply again for suitable roles in my field.

    I don't know whether to believe what I've been told or not.

    What would you advise?

    What do YOU feel will make you happier? Is this the sort of job that will make you feel down or stressed out? Would it not matter as long as your are living with your partner?

    After graduation I took the first job I could get and moved to a different part of the country because I had never had a real job before and was worried that no one would hire me. The job was soul-sucking, repetitive and depressing. I would come home and cry, feeling like my career was going nowhere and that I wasn't achieving anything. After 6 months I left for a much better job and had to move again.

    This is about you too, not just your partner. If you are ambitious then it will be hard to stay satisfied in a job that does not make you feel accomplished, that could be why your family is worried about you. You need to ask yourself whether it's worth it and whether living with your partner will compensate.

    At the end of the day the decision is yours, not your familys. You can't make everyone happy so focus on making yourself happy
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