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Need advice from Pakistanis / Muslims. Potentially ruined my reputation.

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    I thought you got pregnant or something

    Fgs you're 23 why are you still listening to everything your mother says?

    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    I don't think anyone will directly confront me about it. There'll just be rumours going around behind my back (if anything is said).
    I'm afraid I can't really advise much more for the gossip issue other than deny it. People will always gossip it and the sin of their talking is on their heads.

    From the religious viewpoint, repentance is always there for you.

    Narrated Ibn Mas`ud:
    A man kissed a woman (unlawfully) and then went to the Prophet (ﷺ) and informed him. Allah revealed: And offer prayers perfectly At the two ends of the day And in some hours of the night (i.e. the five compulsory prayers). Verily! good deeds remove (annul) the evil deeds (small sins) (11.114). The man asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), "Is it for me?" He said, "It is for all my followers."

    حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ زُرَيْعٍ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ التَّيْمِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي عُثْمَانَ النَّهْدِيِّ، عَنِ ابْنِ مَسْعُودٍ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، أَصَابَ مِنَ امْرَأَةٍ قُبْلَةً، فَأَتَى النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَخْبَرَهُ، فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ ‏{‏أَقِمِ الصَّلاَةَ طَرَفَىِ النَّهَارِ وَزُلَفًا مِنَ اللَّيْلِ إِنَّ الْحَسَنَاتِ يُذْهِبْنَ السَّيِّئَاتِ‏} ‏.‏ فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلِي هَذَا قَالَ ‏"‏ لِجَمِيعِ أُمَّتِي كُلِّهِمْ ‏"‏‏.‏

    Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 526
    In-book reference : Book 9, Hadith 5
    USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 1, Book 10, Hadith 504
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    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    Thank you for your advice. I won't ever be doing that again.

    It's not really a Muslim issue, it's an issue within the South Asian community. The situation could have been just as bad if I was Sikh / Hindu. I asked for advice from Muslims because I thought that they might be able to offer me some religious guidance / solace (since I'm Muslim myself).
    OP, I feel so sorry for you right now, you should have the freedom to do whatever you want, wherever you want (as long as it's not harmful to anyone else) without being scared of your family finding out. I'm sorry if you think this is offensive but this is why some whites think your culture is poisonous. You're in the UK, you should be free

    Find it interesting how the primary concern that OP has isn't about the fact that she has sinned, but what the community will think about when they find out.

    Looks like human beings care more about judgement than Allah does! Surely that's backwards?

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    A kiss can potentially lead to sex. Where do you draw the line?
    "Well, I don't know what happened, one minute we were having a kiss in a restaurant and the next thing we knew all our clothes were on top of the table and his penis was inside me. It's a really blurry line, honest to God."
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