Picked an obese girl over me... I feel offended, does this make me a bad person?

Perhaps if used in a factual way, but to me it seemed weighted towards judgemental, with a contention, clearly not true in this instance, that an obsess person cannot be found attractive. Cannot comment on your appearance but there was certainly an inkling of an attitude that I would find unattractive in your post.

Perhaps I am just confirming her suspicions. But I thought bad person was a bit strong, just insulting and judgmental in this situation. There is some appalling prejudice and insensitive behaviour directed towards overweight people.

Probably something I am a bit over sensitive to as my gf is overweight. Ive always found the female form in its many delightful expressions to be adorable. But it does make me sensitive to some pretty nasty remarks. No one is forcing anyone to fancy someone they don't but generally it's accepted we don't insult people gratuitously. And being overweight is often a complex issue not just greed as naturally skinny people tend to think.

Well people like different things which shows there's some truth in the saying 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. There are lots of guys who prefere some weight on women but people tend to talk in general terms so assume that a slim person will be considered more attractive (though as the op has found out it's not always true) . Dont let those who make nasty remarks get to you as people who want to be nasty will find any reason to slag someone off.

So a guy friend of mine who I had been crushing on for years picked an obese girl over me, knowing that I liked him. I feel annoyed and offended by this. Perhaps this makes me evil. But I'm just being brutally honest.

I feel really down about myself now. I suppose everyone is going to tell me that my personality must suck or that maybe my face is ugly. Without trying to big myself up I get told I'm pretty a lot even by strangers there's not a week that goes by without someone saying it to me and that is face to face not on line. This week I've had 3 people tell me so 2 at the gym and one friend of a friend. I get approached a lot but rarely asked out. When I look in the mirror at my face I don't feel pretty at all though but I do think I have a decent body only because I workout most days. I get told I'm nice, sweet and innocent but I actually think this is actually my downfall and the reason no one wants to date me.

So what can I do?
Am I a bad person?
Should I care if I'm bad? Sometimes I think that's what I need to be.