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Confused about signals from my best friend

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    *I've seen there's several posts already here about best friends etc etc, but they don't seem to cover my situation so bear with me here, might be a long one...*

    Basically, we're at uni, and I met my best friend when we started 4 1/2 years ago, after maybe a year I developed feelings for her and told her how I felt but got shot down. I took a break from being round her a lot for nearly half a year to try and sort it out and on the whole, it was a success. She ended in a relationship with another guy (they're still going) and we just went back to being good friends again.

    Skip forward to the last few days, and Saturday night she came round to watch a film, which turned into two, then she happened to stay the night and all night she was "provocative" (Ain't sure if this is the right word, but still) we ended up spooning, leg wrapped over me, hands all over my chest etc, but nothing actually happened. Monday afternoon after we'd been gym she starts messaging me about it saying she "doesn't know what would've happened if she didn't have a boyfriend" and that she was "very close to breaking her integrity" and was "very confused". There was also "I don't understand my feelings for you this time round..." thrown in for good measure.

    We met up that evening for a walk to talk things through and she was telling me how unhappy she was with her boyfriend and that she was seriously considering breaking up with him. She was saying "how amazing I am", stuff like that but then, after everything from Saturday night, "I don't want to ruin our friendship if we ended up together and it didn't work out"

    Then this evening, she comes round, we watched some TV and she's quite touchy again, not anywhere near the same level as the Saturday night, but still more than she ever really has to me, and past the boundaries of friendship IMHO.

    So yeah, throwing this out there to you people, see what you make of this, any advice/comments etc

    You need to ask her to come out straight with her feelings because it's not great for you if she is sending mixed signals.. But from how it sounds she has some sort of feelings for you, make sure that she is out of the relationship before anything does happen because it's imperative to respect the relationship, even though she doesn't seem to be:/.
    If she isn't happy, I hope she makes the right choice and you have the chance to make her feel good.
    Best of luck with it
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