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How can I stop being needy?

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    My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months and usually see each other every day because we do the same course at uni and are in the same friendship group (we don't really act coupley at uni because that would make it very full on).
    It is currently the Easter holidays and we haven't seen each other for nearly three weeks. I have missed him A LOT (more than I thought I would, which I think gave me a bit of a shock) and actually found it really difficult being apart from him.
    For the past two weeks he has been on holiday in America with his family, which made it even more difficult because of the time difference and how busy his days have been. We haven't been able to talk a lot but we have had the odd message each day saying what we're both up to that day and we have FaceTimed once.
    I have found myself getting upset/annoyed/emotional when I don't hear from him often or when he has been too busy to FaceTime. I have always been a pretty secure person and before the holidays I was never needy like this, our relationship was pretty laid back and both of us knew how the other felt and was 100% comfortable with it.
    I haven't said any of this to my boyfriend, I have just quietly worried anout why he hasn't replied or why he's taken so long to reply, why he cancelled a FaceTime with me, constantly checking when he was last online etc. I don't want to speak to him about it because I know he will be upset and feel really guilty that I was feeling like this.
    I don't want to be needy like this and I hope once back at uni that things will be back to normal, but then I don't want to be constantly upset whenever we are apart. How can i feel more secure in or relationship when we're not together and how can i be less needy?

    Being needy is natural particularly at the early stages of a relationship.

    oh, the days of the honeymoon phase

    be glad you havent got a military man, if your needy with this one

    I think you need to keep yourself busy?
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