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    There was a big thread the other day about helicopter parents - so I thought it might be a nice idea if anyone's got any tips or advice about how to handle the move to uni when you've got overbearing parents.

    The reason why they are overbearing is that they don't think that you can mature enough. The secret to this issue is that you show them how mature you are by becoming more responsible. When they see that you are stepping up, they will begin to trust you and leave you to your devices.

    There is no need to verbally attack or put them down, in order for them to back off. You will just alienate them and if things go wrong, they will be like "we told you so."

    (Original post by Puddles the Monkey)
    There was a big thread the other day about helicopter parents - so I thought it might be a nice idea if anyone's got any tips or advice about how to handle the move to uni when you've got overbearing parents.
    My mum isnt a helicopter parent for sure, but maybe agree that they call at a certain time rather than calling you randomly all the time.

    Speaking from experience, my parents trust me, but they always are just paranoid about my whereabouts and safety.

    Therefore, I text them often (just a quick sentence) to say that I am with friends, or in the library but I am fine.

    Thats the main thing that works for me

    I still remember back to that day in September 2013 when I moved into halls for first year and when my parents finished helping me take stuff to my room, I hugged them both and then from then on I used to get phone calls everyday from them :lol:

    It's one of those things, if you got helicopter parents then its hard to shake em off but for me I was lucky that they toooooooooooooo aren't over protective of me.
    During the end of first year the phone calls I got from them became less frequent so I think they got used to the fact that I was away from home.

    You can't turn round to them and say 'don't call me please!'
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