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    Generally I am a really friendly, and amiable person. In year 11 I use to have a group of about 6 people which I loved plus a bestfriend. It was great and I loved it , never felt lonely and always had support. Now I am in year 12 and that group is completely done with, people left and fell out. Me included. My year is very cliquey , everyone is part of a 'group' so naturally I felt obliged to be in one to survive secondary school I suppose. My bestfriend has now left school but my new group are *****es to her and it puts me in an awkward position , I would do anything for my best friend and I now know that certain people in my group are just generally nasty people. I have been mates with this one girl for over 6 years and she was just really un supportive and snakey. My bestfriend is not on good terms with her either and I am unsure how to play it , I want to be civil with her but don't know how to go about it. So out of the 10 people in the group only 3 people I genuinely like and get on with who will always have my back. I also have various mates outside of the group outside of school, will detaching myself from the group completely be a good idea or not? I have a bestfriend, about 5 really good mates and no boyfriend, is this enough to help me get through secondary school?
    ANY advice is grateful thanks x

    No, you need the whole school to be your personal army.

    Hmm, well this is a difficult situation for a random person to resolve but I think I have a solution for you 😋.
    If you don't like members of your group, why not simply confront them about it?
    If they get mad they get mad. You're far better off with having good friends out of school than mixing with people who will eventually destroy your good friendship...
    Anyway, you don't really need friends at high school 😝. Just get down to the work and you'll meet new people in uni...

    Oh and if you're feeling lonely try to avoid dwelling on things... It will lead to depression... Then possible illness... So ya... Stay fluffy

    Good luck

    (My advice probably isn't valid since I've already lost my friends. But hey, youll take what you wanna take)
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