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    Been with my partner for 4 years. We live seperately both with our parents and are both in our 20s. He works all the time on a complete different schedule to me i'm 9-5 and he works all nights usually. We rarely see eachother and its getting to me and making me fed up..
    if we move in it could be better as we would see eachother more or I could end up sat on my own at home a lot.
    What's your viewpoint on this situation? What would you do in this situation?

    Move in with him

    I think this is something you need to discuss with your boyfriend, you need to work out what's best for you both.
    Moving in with each other could be an option but it's not as simple as that- if you do want to move in with each other you need to think about where you'd live, whether you'd both live at your parent's or whether you'd be able to afford accommodation, all the rest of it. It takes a LOT of planning and isn't something you can just decide on the spot.
    However, I'm assuming that you're thinking of either moving in with him and his parents or him moving in with you and your parents? In which case, that obviously takes a lot of discussion and planning too. It's definitely worth talking to your boyfriend about how you're feeling and asking if you can come to a compromise. Perhaps you could even stay round each other's a few days a week or have regular times/days where you meet up each week? Find out what's best for you but the most important thing is that you communicate and tell your boyfriend how you're feeling. Don't bottle it up- only leads to built up tension and resentment. Good luck and I really hope this helps! xx

    You both need to talk about the options together, but if there are issues where you are both getting upset then moving in with each other may not help, because it will still be the same with you both working different hours.
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    Hi OP here thanks everyone

    We would be moving into our own place if anything. I feel very stressed and am debating moving away at the moment because the town we live in is very quiet and theres not much going on. He can't just quit his job though, and I graduate this year.

    So stressed, and dont really know how to bring it up
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