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My confidence is determined by whether guys find me attractive or not?

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    I'm almost 20 and it's really bad. I'm always feeling low, depressed and bad about myself because guys don't really look my way or find me attractive. I've only had one boyfriend but it didn't last long and we broke up. I dress nicely, style my hair well and wear makeup. I don't think I'm ugly at all but I don't meet society's standards and ideals of what is considered an attractive girl. I've tried to not let it bother or affect me but I can't help it. I wish my self esteem wasn't determined by whether guys think I'm attractive or not but in the society we live in today that's how it seems to work. I want to be able to walk outside and not be upset by the fact that no guy looks in my direction and I'm invisible to them. Please tell me how can I stop letting it get me down and make me feel crap about myself?

    I think that worrying so much about this is what is making you less attractive.

    The key is not to care

    everyone has insecurities you have to let your view of yourself come from how you perceive yourself and not about how you look or how others see you

    confidence is by being who you are and not caring how others perceive you ...such as attractive or not
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