Why is my bf like this, is it me?

My boyfriend has been helping out at a sports meet today and i went too but wasnt really needed so just watched most of the day. He asked me to help him with some equipment stands which i did. However i dreaded it beforehand as he usually gets irritated with me. Lo and behold i didnt put the stand away as he wanted and he started swearing saying '****ing useless, wake up, get out of bed earlier'. So i walked off went to the toilets and cried a bit in a cubicle lol. I never cry in front of others and i probably was being soft but it brought feelings i have about feeling useless in general life as i can be dopy.

He rang me twice but i didnt answer as i didnt want him to know it upset me. I went to him half an hour later and he put his arm around me and said 'friends?' I just squirted some orange tinted water at him jokingly and said that i was going to nip home for a bit but i wasnt sure if he heard as he got iterrupted. In all honesty I thought why should i stand waiting for him when he insults me plus i had jobs to be doing at home until he had finished there. I went to my car and he rang. I said i was nipping home he said something in annoyed tone then hung up.

I rang him twice hours later but no answer. He sent a text asked what i was doing i said just jobs in the house he replied 'just feels like another wasted weekend'. In the past he said we dont spend enough time together so i took it to mean that it was because of me going home. I replied 'Theres been a sports comp all day cant help that. After watching events I didnt want to stand around for longer doing nothing they didnt need help so came home did washing etc'

He replied 'what a load of bull'.

I replied 'So cant say what i did cause its bull and am in the wrong for going home for a bit, ok.'
He said again 'what a load of bull'. I didnt know what else to reply so just put 'good reply, i might save that for my drafts'.

Sorty if this bored you to death but just wanted opinions. Is it me thats too sensitive/in the wrong or whatever?

He sounds like an abusive dick, frankly. He usually gets irritated with you? tells you that you are effing useless? Wake up? Telling you that you are talking bull?

Get rid and, when he asks why, tell him it's because he is a childish bully and you can do better.

I don't get what he did wrong? You're both being equally childish.

Let me explain it from his perspective, cos most guys are similar.

He had to be busy for the day, but wanted an excuse to spend the day with you. See how he asked you? He obviously didn't need the help, he just wanted your company. Then, as he get's irritated by the fact you're not really spending any time together, he's on a short fuse and then when he tries to force some contact, you don't help him so he snaps, and just unfortunately it managed to insult something you feel strongly about. Just chance. Then he tried to call you constantly and you ignored him, so he assumed you were upset and didn't want to talk. So obviously, that upset him. Then when he finally gets to see you, he puts his arm around you to try and comfort you and see if you too are still good. Then a bit of miscommunication, which from his point of view may have seemed like you were basically saying "no" after he said "friends?" Then he rang you because he didn't want you to go, and you further insisted you're leaving. This, of course, upset him even further. He's tried hard all day to spend some time with you and you're just not having it. Then he even tells you "it feels like a wasted weekend" then you show no emotion back, just give him a plain and frankly rude reply. He then, even more annoyed, just starts acting childish.

All he was trying to do was spend time with you, but of course from your point of view you think he's a childish bully. You have to learn to look at it from his point of view

Did you read the bit where OP says she spends a lot of her time quiet because if she says something that annoys him he shouts and sweats and calls her names?

OP, he's an abusive *******. Don't stay with him, you deserve better.

I don't get what he did wrong? You're both being equally childish.

Let me explain it from his perspective, cos most guys are similar.

He had to be busy for the day, but wanted an excuse to spend the day with you. See how he asked you? He obviously didn't need the help, he just wanted your company. Then, as he get's irritated by the fact you're not really spending any time together, he's on a short fuse and then when he tries to force some contact, you don't help him so he snaps, and just unfortunately it managed to insult something you feel strongly about. Just chance. Then he tried to call you constantly and you ignored him, so he assumed you were upset and didn't want to talk. So obviously, that upset him. Then when he finally gets to see you, he puts his arm around you to try and comfort you and see if you too are still good. Then a bit of miscommunication, which from his point of view may have seemed like you were basically saying "no" after he said "friends?" Then he rang you because he didn't want you to go, and you further insisted you're leaving. This, of course, upset him even further. He's tried hard all day to spend some time with you and you're just not having it. Then he even tells you "it feels like a wasted weekend" then you show no emotion back, just give him a plain and frankly rude reply. He then, even more annoyed, just starts acting childish.

All he was trying to do was spend time with you, but of course from your point of view you think he's a childish bully. You have to learn to look at it from his point of view

He thinks you don't wanna spend time with him.

Did you read the bit where OP says she spends a lot of her time quiet because if she says something that annoys him he shouts and sweats and calls her names?

OP, he's an abusive *******. Don't stay with him, you deserve better.

I don't get what he did wrong? You're both being equally childish.

Let me explain it from his perspective, cos most guys are similar.

He had to be busy for the day, but wanted an excuse to spend the day with you. See how he asked you? He obviously didn't need the help, he just wanted your company. Then, as he get's irritated by the fact you're not really spending any time together, he's on a short fuse and then when he tries to force some contact, you don't help him so he snaps, and just unfortunately it managed to insult something you feel strongly about. Just chance. Then he tried to call you constantly and you ignored him, so he assumed you were upset and didn't want to talk. So obviously, that upset him. Then when he finally gets to see you, he puts his arm around you to try and comfort you and see if you too are still good. Then a bit of miscommunication, which from his point of view may have seemed like you were basically saying "no" after he said "friends?" Then he rang you because he didn't want you to go, and you further insisted you're leaving. This, of course, upset him even further. He's tried hard all day to spend some time with you and you're just not having it. Then he even tells you "it feels like a wasted weekend" then you show no emotion back, just give him a plain and frankly rude reply. He then, even more annoyed, just starts acting childish.

All he was trying to do was spend time with you, but of course from your point of view you think he's a childish bully. You have to learn to look at it from his point of view

He thinks you don't wanna spend time with him.

What the ...? Are you honestly justifying his behaviour?

OP, I can guarantee that you will be much better off and much happier single.

If I'm wrong, PM me and I will give you my home address so you can come and burn it down.

I had been there most of the day and he was busy talking to others and helping out, I was stood on my own most of the time and there was nothing else to help with so i went home to get some jobs done. Plus the way he called me didnt really entice me to stay. The time wasnt spent with him anyway. I think he wanted me to wait for him all day but that didnt make sense if i could nip home get some stuff that needs doing done then meet him after. He says he feels the weekend has been wasted because i didnt stand waiting for him all day? I could have met him and stayed at his tonight but he has chosen not to.

Someone's too biased to read properly

The number of times my boyfriend tells me I'm useless and a "****ing retard" and should wake up early and just get on with life (when I'm already a hard working law student) is both frustrating and very upsetting. And the number of times my friend's have told me to leave him is quite ridiculous (basically a 10000000 times). I definitely understand your situation, and personally, I would tell you to leave him because you deserve so much better. But the sad thing is, it seems our boyfriends are identical and yet I'm still with mine.

You should follow your head OP, not your heart. Your heart will tell you to stay with him because you like/love him, but your head is the rational one and no woman should have to feel worthless by a boy.

With all due respect you're seeing it from a girls perspective. I'm able to see it from the guys perspective, I truly have no idea how the girl feels. I didn't say anything over than what the guy could potentially be thinking, because women always paint guys in the worst possible light because of their reactions, and not there pre-actions. So I thought I'd balance it, and additionally you're really making a mockery of truly horrific abusive partners, he just seems to get angry easily. He's not beating her, so don't try that abusive rubbish.

People are so biased on here, swear I spent 50% of my time just offering opposing views that I don't even agree with just to open people's eyes.

Btw people have different standards. His "shouting and swearing" could be normal for him, so he may not see it as a horrible thing to do unless you tell him. Some people are really opposed to swearing, and therefore have no respect for people that use swear words frequently. So does that mean that all people who swear a lot are abusive and awful people. No, it's all perspective.

With all due respect you're seeing it from a girls perspective. I'm able to see it from the guys perspective, I truly have no idea how the girl feels. I didn't say anything over than what the guy could potentially be thinking, because women always paint guys in the worst possible light because of their reactions, and not there pre-actions. So I thought I'd balance it, and additionally you're really making a mockery of truly horrific abusive partners, he just seems to get angry easily. He's not beating her, so don't try that abusive rubbish.

People are so biased on here, swear I spent 50% of my time just offering opposing views that I don't even agree with just to open people's eyes.

Btw people have different standards. His "shouting and swearing" could be normal for him, so he may not see it as a horrible thing to do unless you tell him. Some people are really opposed to swearing, and therefore have no respect for people that use swear words frequently. So does that mean that all people who swear a lot are abusive and awful people. No, it's all perspective.

Dump him.