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How to help my anorexic friend

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    She was in hospital but after "recovering" has been discharged. Since then, she has been restricting her calories and losing weight rapidly. She is 18 now so the decision to go back to treatment would have to be hers.

    Before I met her, I suffered and recovered from anorexia. I almost died due to complications with my heart and missed most of my GCSE years. But, I'm fine now and want to move on with my life. I have tried to be compassionate with my friend. I helped her through thick and thin but at this point, I can't see what more I can do. She genuinely doesn't want to get better. Her eating disorder is her identity - it's all she talks about.

    Having someone like this around me is triggering although. Would it be selfish of me to distance myself from her? I just don't want to risk relapsing under her influence.

    It's not selfish. But I think you need to talk to her about this is making you really feel.

    The best thing you can do is not keep her secret for her. And then the best thing you can do for you is create some distance.

    Telling someone your concerns means that you're not the only support for her and it also means you can walk away to keep yourself safe. You are paramount. It's not selfish to keep yourself well and alive.

    You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped and this could turn into a toxic relationship fairly quickly - if it isn't toxic for you already
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