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Typical Pakistani Dilemma!

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    So I'm a guy... I'm 19.... ehm I come from a very strict background and not sure whether I'm gonna get arranged or forced.. forced highly unlikely with me but I have seen it happen in my family. I know for a fact my dad will not let me marry my girlfriend. me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year now since my first year and I think shes the right person... shes Pakistani too but she comes from a slightly flexible background. ive met her mum and that was only cos she spotted us :-/ but shes happy.. but now the problem is I really love my girlfriend so much but don't know what to do when I wish to marry her.. I mean ive gone against my culture and faith anyway by having sex and dating her..

    so yeh I'm feeling a bit effed.. I really wana marry this girl but my family is a bit crayzeh.. I mean I'm my parents only child so cant really move out or away from them...

    advice would be appreciated ...

    You're gonna have to just tell them how you feel and that you cant see yourself with some random girl rather than you gf. Appeal to them, I'm pretty sure they'll come through, given you're their only child and they don't wanna lose you, though they'll be a bit stubborn at first. Maybe focus on persuading your mum first? And then she can shift your father on the matter...? Its entirely dependent on your relationship with your parents, but if you really want to be with her, dont back down.
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