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Struggling to overcome the distance.

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Why bother with a post grad course - waste of time? 17-10-2016
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    My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now but the distance and our own busy lives are putting strain on the relationship. Since March, we have barely seen each other. I was away with uni for a month abroad, then we saw each other for a couple of days before he went on tour. Since he's been home, I've been very busy studying for exams and haven't had much time to see him.

    Uni for me is a 3 hour drive from home, which is where he is.
    We've had a bit of conflict and I've felt for a while we needed some time together to reconnect which we as of yet haven't had time for.
    He called yesterday to tell me that he feels like we're best friends and not a romantic couple but he doesn't want to cut it off. He's going to wait until I'm home for summer to see how it goes. Obviously, being best friends is a really good quality to have in a relationship but I'm struggling to think of ways to put the romantic spark back into this. It deeply saddens me to think that there might be no way back.

    Does anyone have any ideas? Is it possible?

    I think you should just go with his advice and wait until you get home so you can take it from there. You seem like you're really close and if neither of you have an eye for someone else then there's no reason to cut it off. I'm in the opposite of your situation bc I was best friends with my girlfriend for a year before we were together and yeah if you're best friends then it's a bit awkward at first going from what's normal to kissing etc but I'm assuming you've already done that part and you won't have any problems, just long it out till Summer and I'm sure you'll be okay
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