Should I marry him? Please can I have some advice?

Wow.

The guy has been looking out for her and after her and her family for a very long time. He actually has shown he cares and has shown virtue and morality. Not only are her friends for it, so is her mother, who deeply cares about her. She's also physically attracted to him, and maybe even emotionally attracted also.

Now, what you are trying to advocate to the OP is hey, marriage is pointless at 19, go and date guys, go through many, maybe half a dozen men who maybe want you as a temporary sex buddy and unlike the guy in the OP, actually WOULD take advantage of you, and throw away the chance to be with someone close to your family, has shown he will look after you and be there and actually stick around.

OP, do not take her advice.

Reject marriage depending on the guy at hand, NOT what this user has told you.

He's sort of known the family for three years, has spoken to her on many occasions and has supported the family. I wouldn't call that knowing her totally, but he definitely knows her fairly in a sense, and has proven he has other good qualities.

Put the loaded aside, and look at what else he has done for her and her family.

He's sort of known the family for three years, has spoken to her on many occasions and has supported the family. I wouldn't call that knowing her totally, but he definitely knows her fairly in a sense, and has proven he has other good qualities.

Put the loaded aside, and look at what else he has done for her and her family.

lmaoo, we're going off the topic m8, read the title, shes asking for advice not start some debate..

but yeah, i would marry the guy because "mummy" told me to, judging by how OP has described him as, he seems nice, he's helped her through the hard times.
And if he was abusive, im sure my "mummy" would tell me to leave him for the best. She wouldnt force me to stay with an an abusive husband.

why think about the negative sides, what about the positives?
OP dad passed away, maybe getting married my might her happier and satisfied ?

All he did was pay for some ballet lessons and then he kissed her by the rose bush.

WOAH! Guys, how come we completely missed the fact that she wrote SOMETIMES SHE'S SCARED THAT HE'LL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HER.
I know that you wrote that you know he wouldn't, but how do you know for sure?
It sounds strange considering he's ten years older than you, you're not dating, he's SECRETIVE, mysterious, paying for your dance, and then he kissed you.
A ten year age gap is fine, but not when you're a teenager.
There's no problem with getting married young, but from what it sounds like you're too scared about it and I think you subconsciously doubt him. The fact that you said he's secretive shows you can't be in an open relationship - how can you trust him?
It sounds romantic what he's done for you, but you don't seem too wowed by it - only your mother and your friends.
Your mum sounds like a gold digger as well. So don't trust her.
Ask your self this:
If I'm with him will I be happy?

What is wrong with you? Your acting like this is funny when people are talking about this seriously.

Be easy! You can't go around calling a person's Mother a 'gold digger', her mum probably only wants what's best for her - considering her misfortune

I gave her advice. Yours wasn't exactly wise advice tbh.

But your mother should've known he was going to be abusive surely? Since she knows best...

well obviously you wouldnt think my advice was wise, yours is completely different..

ur making it seem as though i described the mother as some psychic, or fairy godmother lol
people make mistakes God..

"mother knows best" is just a saying, but genuinly a mother would never intend to hurt her child.. and if he was abusive, the only advice she would give is to move away from him.

Yeah the mystery man is probably her mystery next lover or something.

plot twist

Well its obvious that her mother is trying to replace her deceased husband with a younger model.

I see your angle, but that's slightly far fetched

Or he could possibly be a necromancer which would explain his 'mysterious' air.

If this is right....
I know someone in real life called Harlow Berry...
Who lives two roads away from me in the village mansion...
And I know that her dad passed away
I know that she is a STUNNING, shy girl
and I studied with her at A-Levels...
If this is the Harlow Berry i know then i am freaking out right now...