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Can you be friends with an ex?

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    best to be friends. One of my best friends is my ex gf who i had been with for 2 years

    I think being friends with an ex is possible, but I think it probably gets harder the longer you'd been together. Maybe you might not be able to be friends straight away, but over time, because space and time are great healers for things.

    I think it's completely possible to be friends with an ex as long as
    1) Neither of you still have romantic feelings
    2) You respect each other's boundaries

    What ends up happening for a lot of people who break up is one or both parties aren't mature enough to move on and accept that the relationship ended. Instead they grow very bitter and spiteful or simply refuse to respect the other person's boundaries which ultimately leads to them being blocked.

    If both of you are mature then remaining friends shouldn't be an issue. Just make sure that you're both clear on exactly what this 'friendship' means: Is this just someone you'll remain "facebook friends" with but wont really interact with aside from platonic conversations on facebook every once in a while. Or is this someone you actually want to be close friends with and still regularly spend time in each other's company? Option 2 requires a lot more maturity and definitely won't be possible if either one of you still has feelings.
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